marriage and kids
posted October 4th, 2015 at 1:44 PM
I admit, I'm in my late twenties and am scared shitless of marriage and kids. Maybe I'm just not of the settling kind, I've always liked my freedom and rather loose-spiritedness. Yes, I was a kid once and yes I'm the result of two (unhappily) married people. I honestly dunno what gives with me... but I just ain't into to saying "I do" or producing rugrats.
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Post a CommentAnonymous
Oct 4, 2015 at 5:20pm
welcome to the club! despite contrary belief, and the sheep blindly following the biological urge and/or doing what everyone thinks you need to do, it's not for everyone. enjoy sleeping in and travelling. for reals.
Things can change
Oct 4, 2015 at 8:56pm
by your mid 30's. You haven't said if you're male or female.
Maybe you'll stay feeling this way which isn't a problem either.
Yup
Oct 5, 2015 at 12:03am
You're still a kid
NB
Oct 5, 2015 at 5:32am
OP
Finally, you might be the smartest person to ever confess on GS.
Don't listen to the lie that you need to be married and have kids to be happy. A recent study found 70% of married woman "settled" for the man they married.
Changes are if you did get married you would pick someone who settled for you, and with time that would fish out and you would get decorated, hence the 50% decorate rate. As a man you stand to lose a lot more then a woman in a devorce.
Stay single. I like kids, but I would never have one. I'm 37 and recent for a vacectomy; it was the the single best decision of my life.
@NB
Oct 5, 2015 at 10:52am
Mine too!
Say it sister!
Oct 5, 2015 at 12:01pm
Good for you. Lots of women feel the same way. IMO, we should all get a huge cash reward from the government for not adding to the population problem. But for some reason, it's always the other way around; people with large families always get offered discounts and incentives. Do what feels right!
Anonymous
Oct 5, 2015 at 12:15pm
In one sense, I agree with you. I'd rather be alone than be in an unhappy marriage. But on the other hand, I'd rather adventure through life with a best friend than go home to my empty bachelor pad. I don't really see it as "settling." Maybe if you don't love the person, it is. If you are happy with who you're with, then it shouldn't feel like you are being held back. If you are in it for the right reasons, then it should add to your life. I'm all for freedom though! Until I find the right woman, I won't settle either!
good for you!
Oct 5, 2015 at 3:32pm
I am 37 and just recently married a woman who, like me, does not want kids.
you can still have your cake and eat it too...Just have to find the right person....without bringing kids into the picture.
Poly girl
Oct 5, 2015 at 5:51pm
You don't have to get married! Or have kids!
(I've done both, but I can totally understand why someone would want to do neither, or be on the fence about it.)
The beautiful part about this century is that you can choose and build your life and relationships as you want them to be, rather than having to follow the dictates of the previous generation. Just be honest and don't let anyone talk you into something you're not ready for. :)
if that's how you feel
Oct 5, 2015 at 9:41pm
I don't think saying "I do" or producing rugrats is the internal dialogue of someone who is interested in those things. i think it's more like, wow, gee whiz, I'd love to take this to another level. and oh man, kids are a joke and a half, they look like great fun.
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