Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater

Heartbroken into a million pieces, and that after 4 years, you'd cheat on me. I loved you endlessly and never expected this. I lost my best friend, the person I'd thought I'd spend the rest of my life with - but to my surprise, my best friend was a trashy piece of shit. Hope the fuck was worth it.

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Goodguy

Oct 7, 2015 at 7:41am

I am sorry for your loss and what you're going through now. Betrayal of the heart is a pain like no other and I wouldn't wish it upon anyone.
OP, I'm sorry but I have nothing to offer that is going to alleviate your suffering. I hope that asshole gets what's coming to him/her in the end.
And only fellow cheaters would dare thumbs down the original post...wtf?

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Being Human...

Oct 7, 2015 at 9:14am

Is what he was doing. Only "you" decided you wanted to lose your best friend, oh well...

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Tipsie

Oct 7, 2015 at 10:43am

Humans are not meant to be monogamous. It has been proven over and over again.

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Stick it

Oct 7, 2015 at 12:46pm

If someone can't value the interest of another human being, long term, well pity them. Oppression sucks but its not like we were built to not have life long partners.

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Wrong

Oct 7, 2015 at 2:28pm

That is not always true. You're trying to make yourself feel better by thinking that. You don't know what drives someone to cheat. Believe it or not, maybe it was your fault.

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it's simple

Oct 7, 2015 at 4:39pm

GREAT men and women don't cheat.

I come from a long line of very healthy loving loyal committed family partners.

My Grandparents were married 73 years, My Parents 42 (and are crazy passionately in love), my Aunts and Uncles 22-38 years, my brother(s) 10, and 3,my sister 6, and I'm engaged.

Your views on relationships and how they work usually stem from what you see...(good and healthy makes you choose likewise)
If you choose a Great partner with values and integrity, and are loving, playful and a supportive partner, It CAN grow and Last forever.
The difference between a cheater and one that just falls out of love is respect. A cheater will never find real love. His or her pattern is to cheat..(that's why asking about past relationships at day one is crucial). If a person has cheated in the past, they will usually cheat again. If they cheated With you, they will cheat ON you.

If your relationship isn't working, either fix it, or end it. That's what a grown, accountable, responsible, mature person does. Then you're free to choose another partner.(obviously you need to
re-adjust how you choose)

Cheating is a cowards way. And do you really want to be with a Coward any way??? OP, Don't waste one more breath or second on him. A better choice is just around the corner.

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SugarAddict

Oct 7, 2015 at 5:09pm

Reading that another poster wrote it was your fault infuriates me, because that is so far from the truth. I've been in your position before and that's the first thing that people think of when they find out they were cheated on... Just know this was their choice and it was absolutely not your fault, OP. Even if you were the worst partner in the world, there is nothing justifying their choice to cheat. If he/she was not happy with the relationship, then they should have talked to you about it or ended it. Instead, they choose to go behind your back and betray you. It was their loss, not yours (though I understand it might take a while to see it this way). When this person comes back pleading (they always do...) my best advice is to ignore it and move on! Direct those whiny emails and texts directly to trash without even reading them because there's nothing that they can say that will change the past. They will say things like "I love you. I'm sorry" and try to manipulate the situation to win you back. But examine their actions. They've already shown you the kind of person they are...selfish, dishonest, disrespectful, cowardly. You don't deserve that...in fact, nobody deserves that. I would never even consider remaining just friends with an ex who cheated on me, as their actions have shown that they aren't a friend. A true friend would never hurt you like that. Anyways, that's my little rant. It will hurt a lot at first, but it gets easier with time. I wish you the best OP! You'll find a new best friend :)

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@Being Human and Tipsie

Oct 7, 2015 at 8:47pm

If your belief is that it's human to want to sleep around, and that we aren't meant to be monogamous, that's fine. But why the hell would you choose to be in a 4 year long relationship then?

If this is how you feel, just be single. Why drag an innocent, unsuspecting person into it, making them believe that you're in it for the long haul, when really you're just going to hurt them in the end. It's unfair and cowardly, and is absolutely no excuse to cheat.

Plus, would you suggest if she cheated on him, that he should just as willingly remain friends with her? Something tells me not.

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It is not your fault

Oct 7, 2015 at 10:18pm

So sorry for your pain. Betrayal is hell. Please ignore the other rude and heartless posts that blame you.. It was his choice and his actions. He could have left the relationship first and save you this pain. He is doing you a favor by setting you free. You know the truth and can move on to a real partner who will love you. Thank your friend for taking such a creep off your hands. You will be fine I promise. I have been there. Had my whole family, friends turn on me when I divorced my "nice" husband for cheating. It was not so much fun after he was kicked out my house. Do not dwell on the issue, move forward as quick as you are able life and time if precious. Hugs to you.

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@sugaraddict

Oct 7, 2015 at 10:20pm

You are an angel! Make sure you read her post a few times. Sorry you had to go through your pain. I have been there, it is tough. I have helped a few others through the fire.

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