My brother

posted November 22nd, 2015 at 2:37 PM

I hate the way my brother treats his gf and children. While he's never laid a hand on her, he calls her names and threatens her. He means it as a joke but its not healthy and his son is going to grow up thinking its okay to treat women this way. I try to talk to my brother but it's like trying to talk to his three year old, actually its worse. I think he has some sort of mental issues that he refuses to seak help for. He lives in another province and I have no idea what to do. I told his gf to leave him as she doesn't deserve to be treated that way but she's unemployed and relys upon my brother for money. If she leaves him he will make it next to impossible to get child support as he would work under the table. I have no idea what to do. I want to call child services but I know my parents would kill me.

4 Comments

So why aren't...

Nov 23, 2015 at 6:49am

...your parents more concerned that your brother is emotionally and verbally abusing their grandchild? I'd tell them to deal with it before an authority does. If they don't act when you bring it to their attention, you are within your rights to act in the benefit of the child. Don't let your parents enable his behavior.

I love my parents dearly but my father is manipulative and emotionally cruel to my mom and it still creates major issues for me as an adult.

So sad

Nov 23, 2015 at 7:45am

One of my siblings is in a horrible marriage, and like your brother's--psychologically and emotionally abusive, but not physically abusive. There is precious little we can do. In my case, it's my inlaw that is the asshole.

Keep in regular contact with the kids and let them know they are loved...they will need that. I'm sorry :(

Abuse is abuse

Nov 23, 2015 at 9:38am

He probably has laid a hand on her. But then again, she's a grown woman, and interfering will probably just make her feel like she has to defend his sorry ass.
On the other hand, if your parents raised him to be such a loser, do you really care what they think of you? And are you really that different than he is?

anon

Nov 23, 2015 at 8:06pm

Yikes! She should get away from him, mental abuse is still abuse, and many victims have claimed it hurts the most. Those kids are in the middle of this and deserve a better environment to grow up in. Offer your support where you can, tell her to call a DV hotline for help. The longer she stays, the more she is enabling his abuse and it will get worse.