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I think I'm one of those women who secretly hates other women. I love my mom, sister, and my closest friends but can't relate to 99% of the other women on this planet. My boyfriend has been a better best friend than any of my past female best friends put together. Am I the only one?

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dearlord

Dec 5, 2015 at 6:04pm

TRAITOR.

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Nope

Dec 5, 2015 at 6:43pm

You're not the only one.

I wouldn't say I hate other women, but I certainly don't really like or relate to the majority of them either. My boyfriend is definitely a better best friend than any girl I've known as well.

I'm sure we'll be accused of being basket cases or having a mental condition or something, but I don't really care. I'd rather hang out with guys, thanks.

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At least

Dec 5, 2015 at 9:41pm

you have enough self-awareness to admit it's you, and not be blaming all other women like so many on here do...

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You're not basketcases

Dec 5, 2015 at 9:45pm

you've just been successfully programmed to fight & dislike your own gender.
Divide and Conquer Baby!

Luckily the smart ones see it and refuse to be it.
Fighting your own gender is as stupid as a civil war.

Guys say "Bros before Hos"
I say "Chicks before dicks!"
=P

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It seems easier...

Dec 5, 2015 at 9:46pm

...if I befriend females that different from me in age, race, industry, interests. Too similar to me, and the ultra catty competitiveness and jealousy comes raging out. So my good female friends have been generally 10 years older or younger than me. And it's been like this for 15 years.

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I hear you

Dec 5, 2015 at 11:12pm

I feel the same

I can't relate to women most of the time
I thought it was because I never thought of myself as a girls girl

Your confession has me thinking there is more to it

Thank You!

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Same!

Dec 6, 2015 at 12:10am

I am the same way, and it always comes off as me disliking women because I feel threatened by them or because I am insecure. But I don't think that's it at all. I think it's the competition between women, the back stabbing and judgement, that just makes me feel like I can't be bothered with their friendships. Friendship with men come so easily and are much more fun. Although I admit it does suck when you just need a girlfriend to talk about period stuff or boys are there is no one around.

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This is called...

Dec 6, 2015 at 2:56am

...internalized misogyny.

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Perspective.

Dec 6, 2015 at 11:13am

From a mans's perspective It would appear that many women in Vancouver are in a competition against each other for the top prize of being the prettiest girl in town. Men mistake their efforts and think they are trying to lure them in with good looks. Not so much.

When I go out with a woman here, the first thing other females do is start with her shoes, they slowly look up her body, checking out her pants, top and finally hair do. If they like what they see my lady friend get a half cocked smile and maybe I get a look. If they don't agree with her fashion choices it's RBF and I'm now another enemy for being associated with my friend.

I'm not sure why women do this. I never look at another man and thought about wether I would enjoy his company based on attire.

Personally I don't think too many women like anybody here, even themselves.
Low self esteem capital of the world.

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@this is called

Dec 6, 2015 at 1:16pm

It's not actually "internalized misogyny." Not everything boils down to some issue of sexism.

The simple fact is that I have a much easier time meeting guys that share my interests than women. The majority of (though to be clear, not all) women I meet mostly discuss things like makeup, shopping, clothing brands, or pop music that I have no interest in. That or they gossip behind people's backs. Basically, petty crap I want no part of. Again, not all girls are like this, but it's a lot harder to come across the ones that aren't than the ones that are in my experience.

Reversely, when I meet guys, I more often find myself being able to talk about things that I actually care about, whether it's social issues happening around the world, a funny anecdote from someone's recent travels, good quality television series, arts & culture, music that isn't sung by Katy Perry or Justin Beiber, etc.

In fact, if you want to talk about "internalized misogyny" maybe the discussion should be on why so many girls are encouraged to only be interested in vapid things like clothing, makeup, and gossip, and not on more important things like social issues, culture, etc. If more girls had broader interests, I'd be much more likely to want to befriend them.

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