Intimidated by sex

Well, I'm a virgin, and I think I'm going to sleep with this great person I've started dating. I just feel ready, so I'm not super scared of it…but what I am intimidated by more is oral sex. It just sort of freaks me out…I have absolutely no idea how to do it properly and make it "good". I feel like it would just be awkward. Plus, honestly, putting a penis in my mouth doesn't sound especially appealing…but, we'll see. I guess I should go to a sex seminar/workshop eh?

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Roger1234

Feb 9, 2016 at 9:50pm

Just be honest with your partner and just enjoy the experience because life is all about experiences.

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Just do what feels natural

Feb 9, 2016 at 11:20pm

and you'll be great. You already seem to have an awesome attitude toward sex, and that's really what counts. Remember that sex doesn't have to be a serious affair - the mashing of body parts is by nature awkward and funny, and it's always good to share a sense of humour about the whole thing. Don't be afraid to speak up and guide each other toward what feels good - communication is key. Good luck with getting lucky!

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You shouldn't go to a sex seminar...

Feb 9, 2016 at 11:26pm

What you should do is put a penis in your mouth.
You're gonna suck at first.
Know why people suck at stuff?
They don't do stuff.
Mostly because they're scared of sucking.
Go put a penis in your mouth OP! :D

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Better Than

Feb 9, 2016 at 11:27pm

Practicing on a cucumber like when I first started.

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There she blows

Feb 9, 2016 at 11:53pm

You don't say how old you are...
If you are young, just learn as you go! Nice guys will appreciate any action they can get.
If you are a bit older, I would be honest about your lack of experience. Hopefully you'll get with someone who is patient and understanding. Giving great blowjobs take work and shouldn't be given to just anyone! I find most guys do not reciprocate! Remember to cover your teeth with your lips!

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geeknomad

Feb 10, 2016 at 1:07am

I have it in good authority that the Bad Girl's Bible (especially the blowjob section) may be of some use to you. Seems like you have nothing to lose. Some confidence may be gained by this (or at least some nervousness diminished).

Knowledge is power in more ways than one for your purpose. Google it.

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You don't have to...

Feb 10, 2016 at 2:34am

...put anything in your mouth that you don't want to but just know that everyone is nervous at first. Perhaps you could say that you like guidance and instruction to your partner and see if you can just wing it on communication. Learning in a formal way makes you detached during the act in my experience.

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communication!!

Feb 10, 2016 at 10:11am

talking and being able to communicate with a partner is key!! ask "does that feel good?" or ask them what they like....relax, go slow and enjoy!!

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Just going to say this one thing....

Feb 10, 2016 at 10:35am

You never have to put a penis in your mouth if you don't want to. Just know that. If you want to try it, by all means. But don't pressure yourself. You don't have to do everything your first time. Your sex life, your choice. Be safe and when you are ready relax and have fun.

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Split-p

Feb 11, 2016 at 12:07am

Wanna practice ? I'll take a hummer from ya

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