how about leading him on for awhile, before friend-zoning him while you sleep with assholes? His behavior after should make it clear if he's a nice guy or a 'nice guy'.

One date is kind of a small sample size when passing judgement on a person's general character. Everyone is different and who knows? As a guy who's been there, i can surmise that maybe he was nervous and would have opened up and been himself a bit more on subsequent dates, and then you might have found him snippy, cocky and funny AND turn out to have a good heart. Moral: see them a few times before deciding to give up, as you might just be tossing away a diamond unwittingly if you evaluate too soon!

I'm a dude, and am having the same issue with my GF. I normally like "feisty" women and the current GF is 100% sweet. I'm so bored, but have been trying to make it work because my preference doesn't make sense. If you're bored after one date, trust your gut.

Figure it out yourself

Give the guy a chance! You just met him. Take your time to get to know him. Very rarely can you know all about a person in one short, nervous meeting. Maybe he won't be your soul mate though he could become a good friend. Everyone needs good friends.

No darling, you just keep dating those 'snippy', cocky fellas. Perfect for a gal like you

No more Mr. Clean...

1 meeting wow that's a long time to get to know someone. I think most people are a little nervous on first meetings. Anyway the title is a song reference.

An ex once described it as the difference between conceited and convinced.

What you mostly get is attitude. Thus the douchery. It's very abundant - this current period may as well be called the Age of Attitude (Trump).

You're looking for character, something far less common. Someone sufficiently sure of themselves to not have to constantly prove something. They should also be curious, intelligent and funny, to keep you challenged and engaged.

Such people do exist. Absolutely worth holding out for, in any level of relationship. I can have a real friendship with that kind (as opposed to virtual "friend", which is the norm here and now). There's challenge, companionship, mutual respect and affection.

I'm rarely so uncompromising, but in this case, DON'T settle.

deserves to be with someone who thinks he's great. If you feel you are settling, then it's not you.

Since "snippy, cocky, make me laugh who turns into an arsehole and breaks my heart" isn't working for you, try the Mr Nice Guy route. You might be pleasantly surprised. Otherwise, quickly end it so an awesome woman out there who knows what she wants can scoop him up.