ouch. Not sure how you could chose to be in a relationship with, and live with, who you describe as "the most boring individual I have ever known". But stuff happens, people change or we never quite knew what we were getting into. Anyway, you're absolutely right that both of you need out, and he needs the truth. (Just maybe not the "most boring" part). I had a miserable existence in Vancouver applying to endless jobs without any success, paying way too much rent..and I moved. Sucks because Vancouver has some cool neighborhoods I miss, but poverty sucks more.

Society tells him that he's a useless male who should go away. Women, minorities, the disabled, anyone. Looks like he's decided to take the advice.

You on the other hand sound like a chick who's fed up. I see a lot of women like you. Try taking away his dope. Take him on a trip out of town where he's not going be taking drugs for a week. That might do something.

have to move out, even if it means having five roommates

Is he boring, or he's depressed because he's stuck living with someone who doesn't want to be with him, but refuses to leave because it's too hard?
Toughen up, buttercup. Your pillow needs to enjoy his life, too.

You need to raise your own socio-economic status so you're not dependent on ANYONE.

He's covering the bills right now. And he's "boring". Complaints about him are misguided. Time to enact your Plan B and Plan C for your own life.

I can't understand why people stay clinging to Vancouver by their fingernails. There is so much more to this province...do you have friends/family elsewhere? The Kootenays? The Shuswap? Thompson-Okanagan? The Central Interior (Prince George area?) Maybe your limited skills and education (your words) would preclude you from finding really well-paying work in any of those places too...however, chances are that you WOULD be able to afford to live on your own.

Even if I were a multi-millionaire, I wouldn't live in Vancouver just on general principle...

Maybe he is exhausted when he comes home everyday because he has all the financial pressures. You seem very ungrateful for this. It is a lot stress for one partner to have to worry about everything. I know what it is like to go to a job that is sucking the life out of you so you are so tired you can't move. What are you doing to make his life easier or more enjoyable? He is injured and still has to work? You ignore his basic needs. You lack compassion, are a terrible partner and sound very selfish. You should move out quickly so he can find a partner who will help support and love him. I bet he will feel much better and want to do lots of things.

It might be good for your guy, too, if you were both to leave Vancouver, whether together or separately. He doesn't exactly sound like the happiest person in the world either.

Being poor is better than being in a dependent, toxic relationship. In my opinion, being poor is better than most ideals society demands of us--probably because I value art and love and philosophy, and you don't need much money for those. But, working all day then smoking dope and watching TV all night long is actually my idea of hell.

At the end of the day, you are exactly like him. You complain about situation that you are doing nothing about. You can break up with him and move out. You make it sounds like you CAN'T. No, it just means you choose what you are used to, and comfortable with.

You go on rant about how you can't afford to live on your own, and that he wouldn't accept just roommate situation. So you are familiar with the term; roommates. You CAN afford to move out. It means living with a total stranger or strangers. Or do you use his money for living expenses too? Is that what you meant when you say you can't live on your own? Then I think you cooking for him and stuff just makes sense in your living situation.

Something tells me he would be fine if you leave him.