You're a loving parent and your daughter is lucky to have you to help her through her difficult time. I've been there too. I know how hard it is. I nearly lost myself in the anxiety and grief but we are made of strong stuff. You will come out the other side. Take good care of yourself and your boundaries. Don't give your life over to your child no matter how deeply you love her. That I learned the hard way. I found a support group of parents dealing with the same. That helped. Stay strong. Sending love.

You are amazing. I hope the system delivers and you are able to access a counsellor. Good on you for recognizing the need for self-care, and for taking such good care of your daughter.

I have had profound mental health issues throughout my life, and I don't know where I would be without my mom.

From the cutting to the suicidal thoughts, the bullying, the yelling & screaming, that was me/us when my daughter was 16/17. Even the Alternative program at school, which was the best thing in the world for her - so glad that that is available nowadays, they are actually stricter about attendance & the handing in of projects than the regular High School. (?) Sadly, us parents no longer have 'rights' to do what we think is best for our kids but our kids have all their 'rights' lined up and ready to use when they need them. I remember the police showing up at our house when she had been SCREAMING at me (her window was open at 2 in the morning because she was smoking in her bedroom, so the neighbours' had called them) when I was trying to get her to not smoke in the house - and they asked 'her' if she was okay, meanwhile I'm standing there bleeding because she had slammed the door onto my hand, and yes, I have the scar. Like you, I went through hell and there's really nothing you can do except ride it out and hope that they (& you!) make it out the 'other side of the tunnel' a more mature and intact person. She spent time in the psych ward a couple of times, scary but necessary, her psychiatrist had put her there due to her having suicidal thoughts. I haven't given you the back story but suffice to say that it was the 'perfect storm of events' happening in her/our lives that led her/us to that time and place. We have survived and made it through, we are now good friends who talk all the time about life and love... she is now a mature woman of 23 who has even apologized to me for her behaviour in those days. (I did eventually give her her eviction notice, probably should have done it a lot sooner, but being a Mom...) She found out rather quickly how hard life is not being at home, how much she had taken me for granted, not to mention how much it costs to live out in the real world - that in itself is a real quick way to start growing up Fast! I wish for you the strength and fortitude to get through this, it will end, she will mature.
I don't know how to go about exchanging phone nbs here but I have heard that people will go on the 'I Saw You' and post because you can send a private message there. If you'd like to meet up for coffee and have someone listen, I'm game. :)

sending love

Bullying? Eff 'em. Take your daughter out of the school system and home school her...abroad. Sign her up for a volunteer Save the Children project, or Habitat for Humanity, or something. Travel costs less than you think it does, and school is overrated.

I have seen what happens to a person when they are environmentally sensitive, it really affects you physically and mentally. I'm sure the hormones and of course the bullying doesn't help, etc. but sometimes when the person is removed from an allergic environment it makes a huge, positive difference in their behaviour and overall well being. Treating allergic symptoms with medication will only help for a short while, you must remove the allergen(s). If either one of you or both of your 'moon' cycles aren't controlled by birth control, you have probably aligned your cycles which has the potential to make the situation more volatile. Does your daughter like music or art? Get her into a program for a good emotional outlet and improvement of her self-esteem. Good luck and much love to you all.

I'm the 'Wow I could have written the exact same thing' commentator. Just wondering how you're doing this week? Your daughter? Been thinking about you two...