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I just turned 30 and I may never get married or have children and that's fine. It just hurts because I want to be married so badly and to be a good mom. I could have gotten married in my 20's but I just wasn't ready and wanted to see the world. Now my friends are all married with kids and I am just left out. Its just as the years go by it gets harder and harder.

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Same Boat

May 2, 2016 at 11:01pm

I'm turning 40 and am in the same boat, except I made my peace with it when I turned 30. Do yourself a favor and let go of what you thought was going to happen and just enjoy your life as it is. Our expectations are what makes our lives appear more difficult than they actually are. Don't do that to yourself. Life is good. You just have to see it that way!

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As someone who is...

May 2, 2016 at 11:37pm

... a permanent loner both by nature and choice, get to know and love yourself first before you love others. Marriage is not just two people who love eachother putting rings on each other's fingers... it's a life long committment that you could easily come to regret if you don't pick the right person and with the right intentions excessively carefully. I ain't married and I honestly have no intention on being so largely because I see so many miserable couples who regret the words "I do".

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Anonymous

May 3, 2016 at 12:37am

I have some friends that are experiencing the same thing. The world is a strange place right now and less and less people are getting married. When I was 29 I thought I was doomed and wouldn't meet anyone. I was so depressed about it but then I mentally prepared myself for what I would do if I didn't meet someone. It felt okay after that. I planned out how I would contribute to my community and how I would be involved in kids lives. I also considered adopting. You could also freeze your eggs just in case, if you have the money to.

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camel

May 3, 2016 at 1:42am

do you really need the one for the other? if you can't reel a guy in for marriage, why not just get pregnant? one step at a time! keep moving forward!

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Vancouver chica

May 3, 2016 at 1:50am

Hey there, I just turned 35 and feel the same way you do. The only thing I can say is to have faith and stay positive. YOU will meet the one! We do live in a very weird day in age where people refuse to settle and are picky. Just don't think it is you because it's not. The universe just needs a bit more time to figure things out for you. I believe in it and you should too

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Anonymous

May 3, 2016 at 3:39am

In my 20s I watched all my best friends get married, and i can admit, I WAS a bit envious. Now, in my 30s, I've watched 95% of those same happy couples get divorced, fighting over children, pets, possessions and other monetary bullshit. Weddings are expensive and divorces can be even more so. Think of how much money and heartache you've saved yourself already! Plus, 30 is the new 10(if 40 is the new 20, like I've been hearing), so you're still young and got a lot further to go. ;-)

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cheeseburger

May 3, 2016 at 6:22am

It's better to get married when your ready not when you need to be :) fyi half my friends who married when they were young are now divorce. You're only 30 and you have plenty of time.. Find happiness with yourself and everything will fall into place..

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Wtf?

May 3, 2016 at 7:15am

Seriously WTF. First your only 30. Far as I'm concerned all your friends started WAY to early and many will be divorced in the next few years (just watch). Second, you need to have fun in your 30s as an adult before having any kids. You are finally starting to get old enough to to understand who you are and really what you want a n a partner. Don't look for a man to have kids with, look for one you can love first. Putting kids at the top of your list is a garaunteed way to end up a single mother.

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Its not all its cracked up to be

May 3, 2016 at 8:45am

Don't make your perceived desire to have what someone else your reality. Being married can be wonderful and the worst thing ever (en route to divorce). Aside from a lack of communication, the number one reason people get divorced is from having kids (and all the stresses it places on the marriage). just because some of your friends are telling you this is the greatest thing ever . . . just wait, it changes for more than 50%. Enjoy what and who you are and fall in love with that. When you do, a good man may come into your life. But, if you seem needy and desperate to have/be like others, those good men will never cross your path.

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Trust me

May 3, 2016 at 8:57am

don't rush in. I'm married with a kid and I would gladly switch places with you. Life draining existence.

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