No ultimatums, try this approach: simply ask him what the problem is. Tell him you feel undesired and rejected. Tell him you miss his attention and can't figure out why he's masturbating instead of having sex with you when you want him so bad and you're here for him. Explain that you don't know why this change has occurred, and that you'd really like to understand so you can work on fixing it. See what he says and go from there.

You are each other's problem in that you want him and he wants Jergen's lotion.

Not an insoluble problem but it won't solve itself. Something is definitely up. Air must be cleared.

Ultimatum, though...like what, love me or I will do something you regret? Nobody likes to negotiate under threats.

I believe in the power of vulnerableness and asking for truth. That is, if I want to hear it.

hes definitely not into you. ill bet anything hes watching a lot of porn or into some other girl/guy he cant have. time to give yourself an ultimatum.

Is he perhaps...gay?

Savage Love, you know. But I say end it. If he'd rather go jerk off than have sex with you, you have no chance at a fulfilling relationship together.

Don't worry try to please someone like this - this person will NEVER be happy - be with someone who is Happy to be with You. Resentment is the road you are on and you would be better off and seek a path to happiness.

Whats wrong with this guy.Maybe he watches too much porn.Check his internet history.I'm a 3 times a week kind of guy myself and no porn..

Because he's just not that into you..either that or really lazy....and may not care about your needs.

i am once a month maybe kind of guy if my wife lets me..
this guy is an idiot.

....a nookie menu. Change it up/add subtract take-out, dine-in. Instalment plan.