Take a hint

My confession is I really cannot stand people who cannot take a hint. I know, I know. I should be direct. I should be bold. I should be this that and the other thing. Well I can only be me, & I am someone who hates when others need to have everything spelled out in technicolour.

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Lame

Aug 29, 2016 at 11:04pm

You just don't have the guts or the decency to be straight with people. Seems to be a common theme in Vancouver. People are sooo afraid of being viewed as "angry" or "not nice"; everyone's too worried about image management to care about other people's feelings.

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Arther Conan Doyle

Aug 30, 2016 at 6:28am

Can I take a hint? Depends. Are they scattered all over the place broad and course with a truly tender one for good genes thrown in like the beating of a reciprocal heart? Can you take a hint? Paranoid Schizophrenia;

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A guy

Aug 30, 2016 at 7:19am

You could end it all and save the other person some time and effort. Time to grow up I think eh

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What do you consider a hint?

Aug 30, 2016 at 1:39pm

I agree with other commenters that unless your hints extremely obvious the other person may not be able to interpret them correctly. In relationships this is especially important, especially given this trend nowadays with people "ghosting" those they don't want to communicate with anymore. In those cases, it's more fair to simply tell the other person they don't want to continue the relationship, and why, rather than expect them to just "take the hint". On the other hand, in cases where people are so completely oblivious, such as remaining at someone's house at a party for hours after everyone else has left, well clearly that person needs a boot in the butt to understand when they've worn out their welcome. Some people need more verbal direction than others, and that's never likely to change.

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?

Aug 30, 2016 at 4:25pm

I hate it when someone expects me to take a hint. What the hell is your hint????? How can someone else ever know what you are thinking if you don't take the time to actually say it. Hints are open to interpretation and experiences. Grow up - Speak up.

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Snackster

Aug 30, 2016 at 4:56pm

Why don't you give us a'hint' as to what you're talking about?

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derp

Aug 30, 2016 at 9:27pm

so 'brunch' is back on?

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Hint cheat sheet

Aug 31, 2016 at 11:06am

1. "I'll give you a call" = The hint giver never wants to speak to you again. Best to back off or she'll go to the police for a restraining order.

2. No response to your messages = he or she really wants you to fuck off.

3. "Going for beers sounds great, but I'm really busy..." = He is busy hanging out with his own clique, and is therefore too busy to hang out with you. You're not a priority in their life, and so they want you to fuck off already. Best to back off or he'll send his bros after you with baseball bats.

4. "Hey, thanks for your third request to do lunch, but already got plans. Have a nice day!" = Stop pestering the hint giver about lunch because she doesn't want to do lunch with you.

5. You've been on a few dates, which you thought went really well, and suddenly she makes herself unavailable to chat with you, go for coffee, etc. Her messaging to you is something like, "Hey, really busy now, have a nice summer." = Yep, she has ditched you, and maybe she has hooked up with someone else. Best to back off or she'll go to the police for a restraining order.

6. You spot a coworker outside of work, e.g. at the store, or at a festival. She sees you and turns away. = She has neatly divided her life between work and outside work, and you only exist in her "work" box. There is absolutely no overlap between the two. Respect the boundaries she has imposed on the universe.

7. You send a friend request on Facebook (or a connection request on LinkedIn) to someone you know in real life. The recipient doesn't respond even after a week, even though you can see that the person is very active on social media, posting photos, videos, etc. and replies to posts from others in a timely fashion. = That person doesn't like you, doesn't want you in their life, and wants you to fuck off.

8. "Sure, you can come with us tonight," accompanied with a glare. = He or she DOESN'T want you to come with them tonight, or tomorrow, or ever.

9. You are a guy aboard a packed bus, and a female passenger next to an empty seat glares at you. = She doesn't want you to sit next to her, because she's a militant feminist who thinks you're a creep.

10. You get shitty service at a restaurant, but the server is super friendly to the hipsters at the next table = This restaurant caters only to hipsters. You are not. Pay the bill, don't leave a tip, and don't ever come back.

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