Figured it out. Benched.

posted September 24th, 2016 at 12:18 AM

It's the weirdest mind fuck men will ever play. Ladies listen up. Does he text a lot? Makes plans but never actually follows through? Keeps in touch sparatically with clever sprinkles of interest? You've been benched. Waaaaaaay worse than ghosting. Took me forever to figure it out. Apparently I'm an idiot. Never again douche. I see your a narcissist and a flake. Yes I'm stupid. But at least I'm not an asshole. I won't be playing the text game with you anymore. Sayonara bitches.

15 Comments

furiosa narcissy

Sep 24, 2016 at 2:36am

Speaking of sprinkles. Know why mirror-ing is such a vain miss-match? Think its easy being prettier than most girls? I fell in Love with your strength of character. Stop being such a jelouswuss. Get the fuck back here and save me from myself! Stupid!

@furiosa

Sep 24, 2016 at 4:48am

yeah ill have one of whatever she's drinking

Women

Sep 24, 2016 at 7:54am

Do the exact same thing.

A dude

Sep 24, 2016 at 9:07am

From a man's perspective here, there are times when we show affection and get nothing in return. I've put myself out on a limb many times and I get one or two words answers back and after a few times you cool off. Later if it seems like she's still interested in knowing me I try again, it has nothing to do with "benching" anybody. Just another communication issue we have to sort out here that I think everyone has experienced at least once. Not saying there isn't losers ruining it for the rest of us, in fact I know there is but I just had to chime in on that blanket statement you made.

Milieu

Sep 24, 2016 at 10:23am

The way you think attract like minded people sometimes. You sound just opposite how people who are genuine and earnest try to think therefore you end up associating with calculating and manipulative people?

Another clue is

Sep 24, 2016 at 11:46am

if they start only calling after 11 pm. Took me awhile to figure that one out.

O.P.

Sep 24, 2016 at 3:46pm

Wow there are some haters on here! Look maybe I should re-name the post. It's now called- I was hopeful, he was a cool guy, he led me on, I wasn't leading him on, friends or otherwise, maybe it was just out of boredom, communicating honestly is as rare as unicorns, I'm a life size idiot, what the fuck is wrong with this city?, Yes I'll blame it on Van, I've never seen a place with so many lost and socially awkward insecure people, Benching for all.
Is that better?

Garbage advice

Sep 24, 2016 at 4:37pm

Yeah, so. On behalf of all the ladies who you're trying to warn and help, you can sit out now. You're comparing two shitty practices for treating people and guarding yourself. If I adopted the way you're thinking about this and trying to live a decade with that mentality, I would feel really shitty by the end of it. You're just hurt, stop blaming others and heal yourself.