Married to crazy

posted October 21st, 2016 at 1:48 AM

I'm not proud of what happened yesterday. I got into a fight with my wife she told me was having an affair. I became hysterical and in the heat of the moment I slapped her. She called the cops and I was arrested. I was crying eyes out all day. How did this happen? We've had our share of problems but we were doing so well. I was heartbroken, arrested for a stupid meaningless offence and being driven away from my house not knowing if I could ever go back. But I went back an hour later. That's my home and my wife would pull this kinda shit. I shouldn't have slapped her and I'm sorry. But we woke up to a new day and forgave each other. Marriage. It drives you crazy.

20 Comments

Not Cool

Oct 21, 2016 at 10:17am

Honestly you got to divorce her or you need to cheat to even this out. There is an imbalance in your relationship and it needs to be fixed.

Smythe

Oct 21, 2016 at 11:26am

Dude, no, unless you have kids, you need to leave for your own sanity.

Anonymous

Oct 21, 2016 at 11:46am

Affairs suck, I sympathize, but physical violence is never cool. I assume you're referring to yourself as crazy?

@anon

Oct 21, 2016 at 11:58am

Physical violence is never cool, yes. However affair->argument->one slap->straight to cops? Notice that now the moral wrong is flipped, and he has a DV documented. You can't tell by one episode, but this is how gaslighting sometimes works. As above, unless there are kids, get out of the situation and don't look back.

I see...

Oct 21, 2016 at 12:07pm

The Sean Connery school of marriage counseling!

Good and Bad

Oct 21, 2016 at 12:31pm

Firstly, I agree that losing your temper and lashing out physically is not cool. You should have walked out before that happened.

But it's done. Good on you for accepting responsibility. You are clearly invested in the relationship and emotional about it. If you're going to work it out, both of you need to be fully honest. Why the affair? Why does your temper manifest as physical violence?

Maybe you two can come to terms. If you split, try to make it amicable, or you'll both end up broke.

Op

Oct 21, 2016 at 2:15pm

I forgave her but I am definitely leaving her. Too many valuable things in my home that I cannot leave and I'm not talking about her. I will deal with this the right way. I will never lay my hands on her ever again, that was a huge mistake. First and last time. And I guess I'll sleep on the couch for the next few weeks before I find a place of my own.

I still think I'm in a god damn dream.

Op

Oct 21, 2016 at 2:19pm

@anonymous

Yes I am also crazy for slapping her. I obviously wasn't thinking :( you do everything for someone you love and they slap you in the face. I have no excuse for slapping her back.

No

Oct 21, 2016 at 3:45pm

" I was heartbroken, arrested for a stupid meaningless offence"

Stupid? Meaningless? You feel that way about hitting your wife?

I can see why she cheated!

Hmmmmmm

Oct 21, 2016 at 5:42pm

We shouldnt judge the poor op so badly. Have anyone ever consider op is being mentally abuse by his wife and he finally snap. I've witness countless men being verbally abused by their spouses but they cant do anything but take the abuse. Its wrong to lay a hand on anyone but sometimes you went into a state even you can't control. We talked about helping women, children and the mental ill but have we try helping the men out. Guess as a woman I feel sorry for you guys out there who doesnt have a voice. I hope you find your peace OP