Well this is kind of lame

posted January 17th, 2017 at 10:34 PM

I've had painful negative experiences with men that have negatively impacted me as a child, and adult. I go to therapy for ptsd etc., and have taken long breaks from dating to reflect, but keep meeting terrible, abusive guys. I'm very fearful and distrustful of men, but miss certain aspects such as being held (though it can be hard) and just going out and doing fun activities. That's really all I can do right niw, and I want to continue to focus on myself for awhile before even taking that step. I don't know if it's possible to meet a guy that would be patient, and understanding to respect my boundaries to build a friendship etc. First, and hold off on the physical. Any suggestions? Thanks.

3 Comments

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Jan 18, 2017 at 10:01am

If the guy actually has real feelings for you he'll wait if not he's not worth it, you'll find him just don't give up on trying

Anonymous

Jan 18, 2017 at 6:25pm

Don't let anyone touch you!

Simply explain to all of them that you don't want to be involved. That either should drive them away(great, since these types weren't going to be good for you anyway), or else get them hoping to get you to change your mind.

All the best.

APerson

Jan 22, 2017 at 6:43pm

Of course it's possible. A guy who can relate to your situation or can empathize is probably your best bet. Someone also who values trust and doesn't mind taking the time needed to build an emotional connection with no expectations. They are hard to find but they are out there. Just be open and honest with everyone who you think could have potential, if they reject you for it remember it's them who is not worth it. I really hope you come across someone nice soon who shows you differently than what you've previously known. Stay receptive to that possibility. Good luck!