Yes. Try taking on that role yourself before you assume it's a piece of cake. I did both raising my kids; staying home for a year or two and going to work full time. Going to work was MUCH easier.

As a stay at home parent, my days are busy & full. There's never enough hours in a day to finish everything. What you need to realize is that taking care of children is a full-time job too.It can be physically,emotionally & mentally demanding. Driving the kids around to & from school & all their activities can be stressful...dealing with traffic, fighting kids, packing after school snacks, etc. So...sorry if we can't finish all the household chores.Sometimes we need a break too. Once in a while, it would be nice to be acknowledged for all the work we do for our families. Thank you, the working spouses, for allowing us to stay home & take care of the kids. I would much rather raise my kids than have them raised by a nanny or by others. But please respect us as working individuals too.

Both of you are tired. It's reasonable for you to want to relax after a full day's work and not do more... BUT you're in a family with young kids now. Maybe your partner has a schedule of house/child care that's more irregular than yours?

Coming from Hong Kong, it's common place for middle and upper class to have maids (even if grandparents lived in and helped). Takes a village to raise a child. Good luck!

Not unreasonable just crazy to think the woman of yesterday exist today. Feminism has made the stay at home parent a dishonourable role, yet the woman woman still wants the benefit of staying home and not going to work. What are you left with? Someone who simply doesn't do half of what it takes to raise a family.

Staying at home and raising children is a joy and privilege. Sure it's work, but nothing is more rewarding.

When a woman used to chose to stay home and raise children she could manage with the raising and home making. Why not today?

Obviously there's no way to tell if you're a man or woman. But in my opinion it's the woman's responsibility to be the homemaker and maternal caretaker. And the man needs to work and provide money and security. It's so simple. It's not a law, it's not imperitive, but I believe it's natural. All this M/F role swapping under the misguided banner of equality is damaging and bad for society.

Yes OP, you should expect more!

I doubt working full time AND raising kids is much easier than staying home and raising kids.

hire a domestic slave.

Well yes it was as a matter of fact, for many reasons. Firstly, believe it or not guys, but not every female wants nothing more than to be a homemaker. Men get to decide what they want and for most of them that gets to include a career AND a family. I also wanted both. I raised my kids when we were taught that it was possible to do it all, at the same time. Men staying home was virtually unheard of. That meant that for so many women, we not only handled stressful careers, but we also did much more than half of the family tasks including the majority of child care. It was horribly stressful, but for me the staying home part was much harder! Anyone who hasn't actually done it needs to sthu until they have! As for those Neanderthals still whining about women's roles and where women belong, all I have to say to you morons is to crawl back to your caves and let the world progress without your uneducated drivel plugging up the airwaves. What truly needs to happen is for both parents, regardless of gender, to take responsibility for raising their children, and if that means that one person stays home, that JOB needs to be as respected and monetarily valued as the job where one of you gets paid an actual salary. Perhaps if the stay-home person got a salary that actually compensated them for the value of the services they provide for the family, this entire issue would be redundant.

My mom (and most back in the days) worked 2 jobs and raised 4 kids with little help from my dad. I'm a career woman who would like to raise my own children some day. I respect everyone's choice to do whatever they want with their life but any stay-at-home parent complaining about how hard their job is should feel grateful they didn't live in the 50s.