Lonely life in Vancouver

I really don't understand the dating scene and social life in Vancouver. No matter how much I go out of my way to meet new people and be approachable, I get the door slammed in my face. Reaching out to people and keeping in touch with them seems to be a one-way street and an uphill battle to me which left me disappointed. I am now at a breaking point in my life where I think I should stop putting my energies towards meeting new people and maintain connection with people because none of them wants anything to do with me in general. It seems to be a really lonely life in Vancouver for me...

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Mitch

Mar 22, 2017 at 2:45pm

Couple of great shows Saturday night....Teenage Fanclub and Bob Log get out and mingle.

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C'est La Vie

Mar 22, 2017 at 3:22pm

Just a regular day in a busy Vancouver.. Running through streets filled with people but at the same time leaving us feel empty at the end of the day.

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Similarly Solitary

Mar 22, 2017 at 3:48pm

I have a much harder time making friends and dating here than anywhere else I've been, so it's not just you!

I find this city confusing, there seem to be a great deal of people frustrated with the friendship/dating scene, and so one would think there would be heaps of people walking down the streets keen to meet people, and yet, nothing but downward glances and messages returned weeks later. Worse yet the increased mortality risk is comparable to that from smoking. And loneliness is about twice as dangerous as obesity.

If you succeed in surmounting this, tell me how.

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Oh, for God's Sake

Mar 22, 2017 at 5:05pm

What do you mean you "really don't understand the dating scene and social life in Vancouver?"
Vancouver is a cliquish, exclusionary city. You make your friends in high school and give the cold shoulder to anyone who tries to get into your existing circle of friends. If Vancouverites do decide to let someone in, you have to have the right "look," and the right socio-economic status to seamlessly blend into their group. They size you up, and decide if you get to join based on (but not limited to) race, class, attractiveness, income etc.
This is supposed to be common knowledge by now.
The roots of this go all the way back to Vancouver's founding as it was meant to be a destination city for people seeking to live an elite, British high society lifestyle. Ask any historian.

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Anonymous

Mar 22, 2017 at 6:23pm

Me too!

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Same feelings exactly.

Mar 22, 2017 at 8:31pm

I could have written this post.

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Try the bars

Mar 22, 2017 at 9:42pm

As long as you have money they'll be you're friend till closing time

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been there

Mar 23, 2017 at 2:42am

Please know it is not you. It's the character of the city. many others have similar experiences and have left Vancouver as a result. It's been said this is due to a transient population but I think there is more to it as other places with transient populations don't have this vibe. I know this comment won't really help your situation but perhaps on a personal level it will be comforting to know that you are not alone in feeling alone. Best wishes.

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@Oh, for God's Sake

Mar 23, 2017 at 9:56am

"What do you mean you "really don't understand the dating scene and social life in Vancouver?"

You don't need to be rude.

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@@Oh, for God's Sake

Mar 23, 2017 at 3:26pm

Ok. Sorry.

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