If you're going to be a dickhead why bother losing the weight? I guess being a thin asshole is better than being a fat one.

why don't you go back and apologise to him? it's easy to write things, and the likelihood is that he won't see this. also, I've been thin my whole life, and most men do not hold doors. period.

Congratulations on fixing your outsides. Now you need help to fix your insides. I'm rooting for you and I know how you feel. My mother forced me to maintain the image of an asexual child all through my 20's so that men wouldn't look at me. I broke free late in my 30's so that I could grow my hair long. Now I'm getting hit on for the first time in my life. I could rue the time I wasted in captivity but I try not to. I'm here to do the best I can with the time I have left and I hope it's not too late.

Sorry you were treated badly when you had the extra pounds. But, try to keep in mind there are guys and gals like me out there that always hold the door open. Whether you're big or small, male or female, has nothing to do with it. We simply do it because our parents taught us that if we are the first to the door, and there is someone else coming up behind us to get in, we are to hold the door open for that person.

it's how women who got totally ignored when they had small tits or short hair feel when after they get a boob job or long hair.... like these guys never gave me the time of day when I didn't fit society's ideal of a physically attractive woman.

Tubby on the inside.

... where it's never clear when people are genuinely polite or if they want something from you.

It is known that when someone loses tonnes of weight to get to a better health situation, self-esteem, all those reasons, that there are psychological ramifications. Get some counselling, it will help. Your apology is a good start but you need more insight. This is a drastic change for anyone. Good luck!

That is why I sort of like being fat.
Everyone is more honest about disliking me.
If I am thin, sometimes they pretend to like me, which is unnerving. And having been, fat, with the same people, you learn that it's your image, not you---same people, different treatment.

it's your insecurities that made you to act like this though it's not intended? Cus I interprete the actions as, people either opens doors for others or they don't. Ain't nobody got the time to assess who you are and make a decision whether they want to open the door or not.