Am I a jerk?
posted June 21st, 2017 at 11:33 AM
When someone you haven't seen in a while says "hey, you look great!" Am I obligated to say it back? Sorry but I don't like lying to people.
posted June 21st, 2017 at 11:33 AM
Dan offers some advice on where she might find it.
6 Comments
Post a CommentSocial lies
Jun 22, 2017 at 1:45pm
Come in different sizes. Can you bend your principles enough to say that it was nice to run into them and you hope things are well?
@ Social lies
Jun 22, 2017 at 6:24pm
True.
I was recently at a social gathering where I had to interact with someone who was one of those nicey-nice, passive aggressive types- Like a knife dipped in honey!
As I was leaving , they gave me a big, cheesy "It was SUCH a PLEASURE to meet you!", expecting me to say the same in return.
I responded with " Well, the pleasure was all YOURS, then..."
My partner gave me shit all the way home.
Apparently, having good "social skills" means being diplomatic, phoney and insincere.
Yes you are a jerk.
Jun 22, 2017 at 7:14pm
Unless they're coughing up blood in front of you, it wouldn't kill you to tell them "....And you seem like you're in good health".
Snackster
Jun 22, 2017 at 9:47pm
The proper response is "thanks ". And maybe add "you have the best eyes....sight".
Don't feel obligated
Jun 23, 2017 at 8:42am
Just say thanks so much and return the compliment with a question like how have you been?
Goethe jr.
Jun 23, 2017 at 7:12pm
As Goethe once said "A man's manners are a mirror in which he shows his portrait." People in Vancouver could use more manners in daily interactions- it actually makes things easier and more pleasant. If someone says that to me I'll say " You too "- it's short and succinct- and NOT phony.
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