I confess!

When I was 20 I was a nice guy but dumb in some ways. I had a male buddy who I worked with and we hung out a lot. Went to the movies a lot. Anyway about 2 years into our friendship I found out he was gay and I stopped hanging out with him. That was not a nice thing to do. So for about 8 to 10 months I just stopped being his friend. But then about 8 months I realized that this guy was MY FRIEND and we got along liked the same movies and music and I liked his personality. I knew he was not interested in my sexually and I just accepted him. We became friends again but it was not the same and we have lost touch now. I confess I wish I had done things differently now but I do treat ALL people with respect regardless of race, sex, or religion. Live and learn I guess.

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it sucks to realize how much you sucked

Jun 26, 2017 at 8:55am

I have a similar story in that I went through my high school diaries to find something to read at one of those "People Read Their Dumb School Stuff" things, and it was just FULL of SEXIST and HOMOPHOBIC garbage. Did I really call people that? Apparently yes. Christ. I had completely blocked it out.

Yeah, live and learn...and, in general, stay humble and open to the idea that we have done dumb offensive shit and are probably doing it inadvertently all the time

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You should tell him something like this...

Jun 26, 2017 at 12:19pm

It's great insight, maybe tell him this when you've mulled it over a bit more. I'm sure he'll be glad to hear it, and that's because I guarantee it that he already knows you didn't know how to act or had things to think about regarding your own views on homosexuality. Basically, your behaviour was normal, but it's pretty unusual that people grow beyond that as you have, and that can be refreshing to hear about. Just don't expect a fanfare. Congrats on becoming a cooler person!

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