Is a techno moron. But once he got a cell phone I noticed that he enjoyed ghosting others and generally started treating others with a complete lack of respect. He's ugly as fuck, not very interesting and once he started this shit with me he's been put out of my life. No time for a loser acting like a douche bag. Fuck him. He's an asshole.

are you a woman or a man?

Noticed a lot of these "confessions" are very specifically ambiguous of the sex.

Go ahead and sex up those pronouns. Perhaps he loves you more than you realise

I'm a person who requires a lot of time alone due to anxiety and depression issues. I don't burden with my friends with the details but find myself cancelling last minute and dodging invites regularly. I really am not trying to be rude. I'm just embarrassed to say that I'm too exhausted or depressed to hang with friends because I don't want a pity party, I just want to be at home. Alone. My closest friends understand that I'm like this and my best friend and I can go months without speaking and harbour no hard feelings for it. Maybe this person is a loner and just doesn't need as much interaction for whatever reason. I believe we all have different requirements for friends so if your ideals aren't matching theirs, maybe you should have a talk about it. I love all my friends, but I do wish they would be more understanding when I can't hang with them as much as they would like.

Not sure what kind of friendship you are looking for. If she is independent she may not always need a daily check in or constant emotional support. Many of my friends we check in occasionally and there may be reasons for delays in return messages. I would always be there if they needed me urgently. If your friend has had a hard year remember, she may not have the energy to take on others burdens as well. I just experienced the worst year of my life which impacted and needed to take care of myself and nothing else. A true friend would understand that. Her phone is there for her convenience not yours. If she chooses to shut if off ........oh well. Find a different source to satisfy your need to talk, hang out etc.

Seriously, isn't it obvious? For their own reasons they aren't interested in maintaining a friendship with you.

You can't chase someone to be your friend.

"A" so-called friend still deserves a name or singular pronoun.

I think you hit the nail on the head when you wrote, " I know it has been one of the hardest years for them in a while but I've really needed them ".
If your friend is going through a tough time, it's likely they are putting a lot of energy into resolving it but if you are 'needing' attention, help, whatever and base your friendship on this, then you are going to be left out. I suggest taking a step back to figure out what you think need and why your needs should take priority. Especially, if you are using your friend as an emotional dumping space.
Some people find talking about problems exhausting, so if you are pushing your friend to talk about problems; yours or theirs, then you need to become aware that the issue may be you are putting them in a situation that can be emotionally draining.

Not OP, but honestly as someone who has experienced this too, it's a lot more helpful to know that plan dodging isn't because of the other person. We tend to think people who do that really dislike us and as a result eventually we have enough and will let them fade from our lives. It's like, if you don't put the effort why should we? I totally get that you have anxiety issues and want to be on your own and that's fine, but if you want to keep friends, please find ways to communicate and let them know that they are valued. You think you're not burdening with details but instead what happens is feelings get hurt. There is no possible way for them to understand what's going on with you if you don't actually tell them...

Stop texting/phoning your "friend". You said you had done this once before, time to do it again. You will soon know if you need to keep spending your energy on this person.