this is why I have no patience

A dude in a car full of men just yelled "Bitch! Fuck you!" out the window at me on Main Street and I am soooo tired of this shit. It was ten at night, I was wearing a dress, and carrying a grocery bag. I fucking hate that yelling abuse at random women is something these men learned at some point in their lives was an ok way to have fun, and I hate that I'm stuck standing there like a chump, absorbing the abuse with no recourse, because our culture refuses to assert that women deserve respect. My immediate thought was that these men were going down Main yelling at all the females they see, and that they probably direct this kind of abuse to teenage girls and young women (and I'm sure any non-binary person or male that presents femininely) all the time. I want to change our culture to protect girls from this kind of misogyny, but I feel helpless. Why is there such hatred for everything feminine?

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You are not alone..

Jun 26, 2017 at 1:34pm

..in your experience, or your feelings about this. I get harassed with such frequency that no one cares when I talk about it anymore, and some people have gone so far as to say I should enjoy the "attention" because one day I'll be too ugly to get it.

The fact is that this world is teeming with men who don't see women as people, let alone as equals. I've had too many experiences to believe that these men don't know any better, or don't mean to be such assholes. They know exactly what they are doing when they harass woman, and they believe they have a right to do this. I don't know how to combat this. How do you convince someone of something so, so obvious (women = people)?

That's what you get

Jun 26, 2017 at 2:27pm

Today's feminists are giving all women a bad name. Sorry you got some of the backlash.

I find

Jun 26, 2017 at 2:43pm

that guys tend to get a little more ballsy and belligerent/dumb when there are other guys around. If their mothers were in the car it wouldn't be happening.

Aggression

Jun 26, 2017 at 2:53pm

The race (and by race, I mean people) is bred for aggression and violence. We are all descended from the ones that lived to breed, instead of the ones getting clubbed, burnt, pierced.

Not everyone is aggressive but many are. Men have to learn to deal with it or people get hurt.

You are being hurt by the ones that don't deal with it

@ That's what you get

Jun 26, 2017 at 3:04pm

Um, sorry, no. Men have been harassing women on the street since BEFORE feminists even existed. To claim feminists are responsible for men harassing women today is pathetic.

And for the record, I think even the men who did this to the OP would have a problem with your statement, aka, they chose to exercise their "power" to harass women, and now you're telling them they didn't make that choice? That feminists FORCED them to? Nope. Even misogynists make choices, and your statement insults even them.

they call YOU a bitch

Jun 26, 2017 at 4:19pm

And that means they hate all women??

Please explain this extremist view of yours.

Thanks and sorry

Jun 26, 2017 at 4:26pm

Thank-you for writing this. I'm tired of it too. Sooooooo damn tired. And I'm sorry this shit keeps happening and you have to live with it. <3

"because our culture"

Jun 26, 2017 at 5:40pm

"because our culture refuses to assert that women deserve respect"

Oh yeah you're right, because we live in Afghanistan and our culture deems women to deserve no respect...

Oh about NO! How about that those people were just some run of the mill A-holes? Every culture got one of these characters, some places more than others, and in almost all places in this world, they got more of these characters than we do here in Canada.

So no. To say that these morons are representation of our Canadian culture and that our culture asserts "that women deserve respect" is the most foolish statement ever.

Though if you want, and I tell you this from my first hand experience of a woman being there, consider moving to Saudi Arabia. Then you will truly learn what it means to live in culture that "refuses to assert that women deserve respect"

As a man...

Jun 26, 2017 at 5:51pm

I have absolutely no desire to do anything so inhumane, and no understanding why any man feels it's ok to do this. (I assume alcohol was involved, but that's no excuse). Those "men" are losers. I'm sorry this happened to you, and I hope it never happens again to you or anyone else. Shameful embarrassing behaviour. Ugh...

@That's what you get #2

Jun 26, 2017 at 6:02pm

Big difference between referring to something / someone as "feminine" and someone who is a "feminist". OP is referring to the former. TWYG is referring to the latter, although in a weird way. The original cat-callers are just stupid F*ck-wads with no common courtesy or social skills. Sigh... what is wrong with you people!?

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