picturing ourselves as being in the position and body and circumstances of another person we are interacting with or 'judging' or 'commenting on' whatever the intention may be ('good' or 'bad'), we can easier see the harm to our own conscience we are causing if we belittle or cut down or cause any type of abusive harm to them, due to accumulation of guilt in our own being. Solution: do and say and intend unto others what you would like others to do and say and intend upon you. Thus, if we think and act and intend out of kindness and compassion towards others (no matter who the are), we will minimize our own accumulation of guilt in our being over our lifetime :) i hope this makes sense: kindness to others is win-win for ourselves and others, because if we hurt others then we are hurting ourselves indirectly; and the price for us to pay for causing pain and harm verbally/physically/emotionally/sexually/ psychologically/mentally to 'others' will be apparent and manifested in our life in some shape or form. Even if the accumulated guilt is 'invisible' to us, the unconscious negative behaviours we express (eg. anger, irritability, impatience, drug use, addictions, insomnia, etc.) will reveal the hurt we are carrying because of the harm we did to others in our past. Forgiveness of ourselves regularly is key in changing our ways over time to that of being more and more kind, such that we ourselves live in more contentment and peaceful and healthy, prosperous lives without the need to harm others :) ... this is a perspective that i hope makes sense