Not My Fantasy

I seem to be everybody's dream/fantasy woman... Or at least to the men I have come across in the past 8 years that I have been single. Sure, like most I enjoy sex and close companionship. I take intimacy very seriously and not often am I drawn to a man easily, but when I am....it's absolute fireworks. I don't let anyone one in easily either, I am guarded. As I have learned many years ago, if a man wants a woman they will relentlessly not stop at anything to win her over ... I have witnessed this first hand. I have had a couple very special people in my life through out these "single" years and I am always the most "amazing" woman to them, I'm beautiful, the sex is the "best", the conversation and connection is like "no other" they "love "me, Yet I never seem to be enough to be the one... Eventually they leave without a goodbye. One "friendship" lasted 7 years. Since I was young this seemed to be an on going theme.... I'm the most "incredible" woman ever. Intelligent. "Above and beyond " everyone else, but yet I remain alone. So, maybe I'm a dreamer or gullible or possibly not that "safe/everyday" woman that they would think of settling down with. I don't get it, all I have ever done was be myself, honest with an open heart and loved them as much as I possibly could. It pains me to see my ex lovers move on to serious, fulfilling relationships with others while I sit alone, never with an actual established relationship feeling stuck in limbo, as if I'm not allowed of anything better although I know I am more than deserving.

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I could have written this

Jul 15, 2017 at 3:55pm

Except each of these men promised me marriage and kids, and still it hasn't happened to me yet. :-(

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Flip it around for yourself.

Jul 15, 2017 at 4:41pm

Were any of these guys "guarded" like you? Sounds like a lot of cat and mouse, and you've always played the part of the mouse. Perhaps you should start going on the prowl yourself. Catch someone "guarded" like you.

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Oprah

Jul 15, 2017 at 5:02pm

I think we need more details.

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Lower Your Standards

Jul 15, 2017 at 7:08pm

Girl you need lower your standards.

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Anonymous

Jul 15, 2017 at 8:58pm

Why was reading that so unbearable?

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if you are still friends with some of them

Jul 15, 2017 at 9:45pm

and you think they would be honest with you, you could ask them why. I know that might be awkward. Sometimes though it is just one thing that no one will tell you. Speaking from experience. I am okay in the romance department but with friendships I was having trouble. You mention you are guarded. How guarded? so guarded that people move on?

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All starters, no mains

Jul 15, 2017 at 11:00pm

I wonder if you haven't kind of correctly identified the situation there. You're fabulous in a way that doesn't seem conducive to aging well, raising the kids, and getting the toilet paper in enormous Costco packages.

I'm guessing it is no more than a presentation issue. Talk to your girlfriends about this, how you come off.

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Reading this...

Jul 16, 2017 at 1:15am

Was almost irritating.

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Well

Jul 16, 2017 at 1:28pm

They are probably thinking about you when they are having sex with their wives if that's any consolation.

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This sounds like me -except

Jul 16, 2017 at 2:16pm

that I'm not really sad about it.
I just joke that it's something like out of the 'Good Luck Chuck' movie... with most of the men I've dated -the next woman- was the one they ended up settling down with.
If I'm a Ms Right magnet for most of the guys I date - that's totally fine. I'm having fun along the way. ;)
(and the "normal" life of marriage & kids never really appealed... I just want to travel and have 1 adventure after the next!)
~Dv

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