Not My Fantasy

I seem to be everybody's dream/fantasy woman... Or at least to the men I have come across in the past 8 years that I have been single. Sure, like most I enjoy sex and close companionship. I take intimacy very seriously and not often am I drawn to a man easily, but when I am....it's absolute fireworks. I don't let anyone one in easily either, I am guarded. As I have learned many years ago, if a man wants a woman they will relentlessly not stop at anything to win her over ... I have witnessed this first hand. I have had a couple very special people in my life through out these "single" years and I am always the most "amazing" woman to them, I'm beautiful, the sex is the "best", the conversation and connection is like "no other" they "love "me, Yet I never seem to be enough to be the one... Eventually they leave without a goodbye. One "friendship" lasted 7 years. Since I was young this seemed to be an on going theme.... I'm the most "incredible" woman ever. Intelligent. "Above and beyond " everyone else, but yet I remain alone. So, maybe I'm a dreamer or gullible or possibly not that "safe/everyday" woman that they would think of settling down with. I don't get it, all I have ever done was be myself, honest with an open heart and loved them as much as I possibly could. It pains me to see my ex lovers move on to serious, fulfilling relationships with others while I sit alone, never with an actual established relationship feeling stuck in limbo, as if I'm not allowed of anything better although I know I am more than deserving.

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I could have written this

Jul 15, 2017 at 3:55pm

Except each of these men promised me marriage and kids, and still it hasn't happened to me yet. :-(

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Flip it around for yourself.

Jul 15, 2017 at 4:41pm

Were any of these guys "guarded" like you? Sounds like a lot of cat and mouse, and you've always played the part of the mouse. Perhaps you should start going on the prowl yourself. Catch someone "guarded" like you.

Oprah

Jul 15, 2017 at 5:02pm

I think we need more details.

Lower Your Standards

Jul 15, 2017 at 7:08pm

Girl you need lower your standards.

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Anonymous

Jul 15, 2017 at 8:58pm

Why was reading that so unbearable?

if you are still friends with some of them

Jul 15, 2017 at 9:45pm

and you think they would be honest with you, you could ask them why. I know that might be awkward. Sometimes though it is just one thing that no one will tell you. Speaking from experience. I am okay in the romance department but with friendships I was having trouble. You mention you are guarded. How guarded? so guarded that people move on?

All starters, no mains

Jul 15, 2017 at 11:00pm

I wonder if you haven't kind of correctly identified the situation there. You're fabulous in a way that doesn't seem conducive to aging well, raising the kids, and getting the toilet paper in enormous Costco packages.

I'm guessing it is no more than a presentation issue. Talk to your girlfriends about this, how you come off.

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Reading this...

Jul 16, 2017 at 1:15am

Was almost irritating.

Well

Jul 16, 2017 at 1:28pm

They are probably thinking about you when they are having sex with their wives if that's any consolation.

This sounds like me -except

Jul 16, 2017 at 2:16pm

that I'm not really sad about it.
I just joke that it's something like out of the 'Good Luck Chuck' movie... with most of the men I've dated -the next woman- was the one they ended up settling down with.
If I'm a Ms Right magnet for most of the guys I date - that's totally fine. I'm having fun along the way. ;)
(and the "normal" life of marriage & kids never really appealed... I just want to travel and have 1 adventure after the next!)
~Dv

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