posted Tuesday, June 18, 2013 at 10:12pm
I have type 1 herpes (genital). This is the same strand that causes oral herpes (cold sores). I have only ever had one outbreak.
What I don't understand is this-how is it any different if you get a bj from a girl who has had a cold sore in her life, or if you have sex with me?
Most guys would never, ever ask a girl if she's ever had a cold sore before they would allow her to go down on them...and i bet most guys wouldn't care if she had. I mean, they say 80% of people of had cold sores in their lives. However, tell a guy you've had one outbreak of genital herpes and they wont' have sex with you-even though it's the same freaking virus!
Please dont' comment if you only have mean things to say-I have been careful my whole life and have never had unprotected sex.It was just bad luck, I guess. And like I said-I've only ever had one oubreak. Physicaly it's not a big deal...but socially...
I'm genuinely curious why there is such a double standard around this virus, and I wish it would change! If 70% of people have the herpes type 1 virus in their body, why does it matter if it's on your mouth, or your genitals (as a person receiving a bj or having normal sex). Hope this makes sense.