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posted Tuesday, September 18, 2012 at 6:54pm
my partner and i aren't having sex. i don't want to end it. but i really need to get laid! i was thinking of trying ashley madison. does anyone have an experience to share?
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Sep 19, 2012 at 8:12 am
That is the equivalent of going to those steam baths and massage parlors downtown. Married men frequent those .Not sure what gender you are.
Sep 19, 2012 at 8:23 am
you cant jerk off ? getting off is more important than your partners trust in you ? doesnt sound like its worth much to you anyway , so just break up , and be free . if youd concider cheating the least painful of those options then you are only thinking of yourself , set your partner free , you dont have to give up sex , but you do have an obligation to be honest and trustworthy to your spouse . wouldnt you want the same treatment ? use the same effort to get help and work on your relationship . dont do it
Sep 19, 2012 at 9:38 am
if you're not having sex with your partner then tough luck.. you should remain faithful completely regardless... remain totally celibate because obviously.. that must have been what you signed up for! IT IS VERY SELFISH AND UNNATURAL FOR YOU TO THINK ABOUT SEX. Shame on you!!! It is NOT NATURAL for you to want to feel the warm passionate touch of another adult. So.... because you're in a committed relationship.. this is your sacrifice. Yes... give up sex totally........Or..... think about re-evaluating the relationship you are in... figure out why you're not having sex, and if it's because your loving partner just doesn't feel like it, then maybe consider finding a new relationship.. how's that for an idea?? By the way... it's so easy for some to judge when they're having REGULAR SEX... isn't it??? And if you do decide to hold on to your wonderful loving partner, then yes... steam baths and ashley madison would be the answer.... if you want to degrade yourself to that level. Why do people stay in incompatible relationships? You only have one life.
Sep 19, 2012 at 9:46 am
I agree with 'think about it'.... You shouldn't have to give up sex... but you shouldn't take the easy / lazy way out. Talk to your partner, try to work it out, and if it's a lost cause then set that person free. They deserve that much. Ashley Madison sounds like a pretty scary choice...... I wouldn't go there.
Sep 19, 2012 at 11:09 am
I agree with the above posts. Is there a reason that you and your partner aren't having sex? Is it something that can be talked about? If not, then you should really consider ending it. A relationship can only truly work if both people are equally satisfied. It would be really dishonorable to stay with them, but then go get some on the side. Not to mention, not very safe. Even with protection, you could be putting yourself at risk, and then also your partner by default.
Sep 19, 2012 at 11:11 am
I believe as much as you should be faithful to you partner in every way, your wife signed up for this too!!
Our friends and family can meet almost all of our needs in one way or another from communication and sharing, to recreational and intilectual. The one need that should only be taken care of by your partner is sex.
Sex is a genuine human need. You both should've had your eyes open about this. Tell her strait forward, respectfully, that she is not meeting your needs. If she is unwilling or unable to find out why I.e. Psychotherapy and not willing to work on it then you should consider finding a relationship with someone that is capable for meeting your needs for longer than it takes to say "I do". Isn't that fraud?
Our friends and family can meet almost all of our needs in one way or another from communication and sharing, to recreational and intilectual. The one need that should only be taken care of by your partner is sex.
Sex is a genuine human need. You both should've had your eyes open about this. Tell her strait forward, respectfully, that she is not meeting your needs. If she is unwilling or unable to find out why I.e. Psychotherapy and not willing to work on it then you should consider finding a relationship with someone that is capable for meeting your needs for longer than it takes to say "I do". Isn't that fraud?
Sep 19, 2012 at 12:12 pm
The owner of ashley madison was interviewed on cbc's Q today. Listen to it. May help inform your decision.
Sep 19, 2012 at 2:23 pm
All these "stick with it and fix it or simply leave" comments are obviously from women or men that have never gone through divorce. I used to wonder why anyone would cheat in a relationship rather than just leave but I've found out how screwed a man gets in a divorce. I fully understand now why this might be an option...
Sep 19, 2012 at 10:57 pm
lol why are people hating on here? just cus they dont share the same "values" as you? lol
anyway, why dont you find someone else to do it? unless you're emotionally attached
anyway, why dont you find someone else to do it? unless you're emotionally attached
Sep 20, 2012 at 11:52 am
Every time I read these confessions about cheating I just would die to know how many of the commentators who say stuff like "you're a whore" and "you are the scum of the earth", " Do your partner a favor and leave them" Have ever been in a long real relationship. Also I could not imagine that the OP didn't talk at all to his partner and is going straight for the cheating. I really could be that dumb but I doubt. For some reason so of the shit that people say is so fucking stupid. "Can't you just jerk off" I'm sorry did you just compare all women to a hand?! Men would never be in a relationship if jerking off was the equivalent to sex.
Sep 20, 2012 at 2:23 pm
If a cheating spouse thinks that route is better than divorce. think again. You will not only lose more, but you will never have the opportunity to walk away with your intergrity guilt-free. and if you think that means nothing, think again.. In the long term you will be a marked man..no woman wants a man that cheated unless she too is a cheater. how will your life be being with someone that clearly has no boundaries??... and if you are a woman..just ask any man.. If he would ever marry a woman that cheated on her last husband.. Men dont handle that well.. its not something to be proud of If its not working and you want out, have the courage to do it without creating a mess for everyone else to clean up. that separtes the girls and boys from the adults. so be one.
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