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posted Saturday, June 16, 2012 at 4:56pm
You knew I didn't like you adding cyber sluts to your facebook account, so you decided to add them to your other "social networking" page that I didn't know about instead. 300+ slutty girls. Wow.
I thought I could learn to live with it because you said you were just adding them and not talking to them. That is until one of my friends was approached by you online. You told her she had incredible eyes, an incredible smile and that she was very photogenic. She did not return the message once she realized who you were.
Didn't you tell me I had incredible eyes and an incredible smile the night we met? I thought you were different, but you are full of crap like so many other people.
Okay, so you didn't go further with the conversation or say anything dirty to her, but what if she had continued the conversation or asked to meet up with you?
We've been together for almost 1 year. Now I don't know if I can continue. I don't think I trust you anymore. It's sad because I fell in love with you so hard. I thought you were the one, but you let me down like all the rest.
I guess there is a reason your initials are B.S.
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Jun 16, 2012 at 6:50 pm
I feel you, I've been in this situation before. Fist of all, let me just give you a big cyber hug from one stranger to another. What you found out totally hurts. Here's some advice from me (you can take it or leave it.)
1. Don't trash these other girls, you don't know them and they have nothing to do with your lover's choices. Put their behavior out of your mind and make a mental note not to focus on what choices you will and will not accept in a partner. Your hurt and anger is telling you that you will not tollerate a guy who treats women's profiles like a collection of ego boosting trading cards.
2.Know you are not replaceable and that his love for you has absolutely nothing to do with his shitty thoughtless, selfish behaviour. He can still be crazy about you and behave this way.
3. Set a clear boundary and cut-off all contact with him for 90 days. Say why and commit to it. You need the time to think and feel and hurt and be angry, and he needs to get the message LOUD and CLEAR. Back away from the fire he just started or you will get burned.
This guy gave you an opportunity to show how self-respecting and classy you are, now let those traits shine! Hold your head-up, act like you are a beautiful intelligent self-confident catch even if you aren't feeling like it right now. Unlike the girls who want attention from this guy (or any guy) you don't need it like that, you are better then that. Don't make any moves for 90 days with him. See how you feel then. If it's meant to be it will work out, but it can't if you try and work this out right now. There's no way.
1. Don't trash these other girls, you don't know them and they have nothing to do with your lover's choices. Put their behavior out of your mind and make a mental note not to focus on what choices you will and will not accept in a partner. Your hurt and anger is telling you that you will not tollerate a guy who treats women's profiles like a collection of ego boosting trading cards.
2.Know you are not replaceable and that his love for you has absolutely nothing to do with his shitty thoughtless, selfish behaviour. He can still be crazy about you and behave this way.
3. Set a clear boundary and cut-off all contact with him for 90 days. Say why and commit to it. You need the time to think and feel and hurt and be angry, and he needs to get the message LOUD and CLEAR. Back away from the fire he just started or you will get burned.
This guy gave you an opportunity to show how self-respecting and classy you are, now let those traits shine! Hold your head-up, act like you are a beautiful intelligent self-confident catch even if you aren't feeling like it right now. Unlike the girls who want attention from this guy (or any guy) you don't need it like that, you are better then that. Don't make any moves for 90 days with him. See how you feel then. If it's meant to be it will work out, but it can't if you try and work this out right now. There's no way.
Jun 16, 2012 at 7:55 pm
Him telling you that you had "incredible eyes, an incredible smile and are very photogenic" is all it took to woo you? That is the most impersonal run-of-the-mill compliment a guy can give to someone. There's nothing special about it at ALL. You need to check your self-esteem chica!
Jun 16, 2012 at 10:49 pm
Fuck.that.guy.
Dump his sorry shady ass and don't look back. He sounds disgusting.
Dump his sorry shady ass and don't look back. He sounds disgusting.
Jun 17, 2012 at 2:00 pm
a sex addiction and a constant need to fill the empty void in his body where his soul should be. His needs are never going to be met, ever. Even if he meets a super model crossed with Martha Stewart, with a master's degree and a serious case of nymphomania. This man still won’t be satisfied with her or anyone. It’s not you, it’s him.
Good call you made in leaving this chump!
Good call you made in leaving this chump!
Jun 17, 2012 at 6:22 pm
This guy is bad news. Take it from someone that has had a lot of life experience. Guys that collect profiles like that often have horrible self esteem, and that lack of self worth can lead to all kinds of questionable behaviour. I would count yourself lucky that you found out his true colours sooner rather than later (ie years down the road). I'm sorry for you're heartbreak. Don't let it make you bitter, there are still good guys out there.
Jun 17, 2012 at 7:21 pm
Look at the bright side:
1. It could be all guys that he's 'socially networking' with;
2. It could be Gentleman Jack exclusively;
3. It could be Beth that he's networking with (wait - not so bad - I take it back.)
1. It could be all guys that he's 'socially networking' with;
2. It could be Gentleman Jack exclusively;
3. It could be Beth that he's networking with (wait - not so bad - I take it back.)
Jun 17, 2012 at 10:00 pm
Whats a 'cyber slut'?
Jun 18, 2012 at 7:51 pm
I'm not gonna hate on the bf because I don't know his side of the story.
I was looking for a confession, not a "my bf has a million gfs in cyberspace" story. Sheesh!
I was looking for a confession, not a "my bf has a million gfs in cyberspace" story. Sheesh!
Jun 18, 2012 at 11:34 pm
I think I know this asshole. He is on every dating site out there and every social network. I got the "you are very photogenic" crap from him too and his initials are B.S. Very sad. I feel for you honey. You probably don't deserve this crap.
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