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posted Saturday, June 16, 2012 at 11:55am
So I am 39 years old and my girlfriend is 20 years old and we have been going out for about six months. She invited me over to have dinner with her family and it did not go well at all. Her mother and father basically called me a pervert because of the age difference.
I tried to reassure them but they couldn't understand why I didn't date someone my own age.
The dinner ended badly with my girlfriend crying and me being escorted out the door by her father. All in all it didn't go as planned but we're still going out and I figure they'll have to accept me at some point.
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Jun 16, 2012 at 5:53 pm
"I figure they'll have to accept me at some point"
The ideal ages for marriage are 18 for a woman, 38 for the man. So, 20 and 39 is not bad. Almost ideal.
Aristotle would be proud. Just remember that her parents are unphilosophical.
The ideal ages for marriage are 18 for a woman, 38 for the man. So, 20 and 39 is not bad. Almost ideal.
Aristotle would be proud. Just remember that her parents are unphilosophical.
Jun 16, 2012 at 6:36 pm
Keep going out with her and treat her better than ever. And when she isn't looking, flirt with the mom and wink at the dad. Hilarity will ensue.
Jun 16, 2012 at 8:06 pm
Doesnt sound like a dinner invite, it sounds like it was an ambush.
Jun 17, 2012 at 9:42 am
Who cares what anyone thinks! Dude, you're nailing a 20 year old girl and youre 39!!!
What your secret?
What your secret?
Jun 17, 2012 at 12:24 pm
the father is right. You are just too immature and not man enough to accept it. best you stay dating young girls because women want Men not boys.
Jun 17, 2012 at 1:53 pm
silly girl to stay with you. bottom line is in time she will want someone else, (at 20 she has no idea that it will NOT be you) just ask any 35 yr old who she wanted at 20 and she will tell you Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh how things change when you mature. the problem is You are creating a problem for her . you just cant see that, yet.
ps. Why cabnt you find someone 5-8 yrs difference?
What are you lacking that makes communicating or attracting women difficult? Do you feel more looked up too, in the eyes of a younger girl who you can impress with your life experiences? Can you (and do you really want to) connect on a level 20 years younger??..do you want to recapture or re-do your 20's?, whats missing as a man in this stage of your life? Can you truly be happy, emotionally, sexually, and vulnerable for the long term?,,or do you want to be still dating like this when you are 50,and you crave that deeper connection?
I am not saying that to be unkind , just to get some insight....you dont need to share with me, just be true to you. you can only fake it for so long. Good luck :)
ps. Why cabnt you find someone 5-8 yrs difference?
What are you lacking that makes communicating or attracting women difficult? Do you feel more looked up too, in the eyes of a younger girl who you can impress with your life experiences? Can you (and do you really want to) connect on a level 20 years younger??..do you want to recapture or re-do your 20's?, whats missing as a man in this stage of your life? Can you truly be happy, emotionally, sexually, and vulnerable for the long term?,,or do you want to be still dating like this when you are 50,and you crave that deeper connection?
I am not saying that to be unkind , just to get some insight....you dont need to share with me, just be true to you. you can only fake it for so long. Good luck :)
Jun 17, 2012 at 5:49 pm
Sorry to say this, as you may be a really nice guy, but you are WAY too old for this girl. It's not just that you have such a big age gap, but also where you each are in your lives. A 20 year old is at the beginning of adulthood and on a path of figuring out who they are, a 39 year old is an established adult that has had time to learn, explore life, and grow as a person (hopefully anyway). This girl is basically just out of high school and has not had enough life experience for you to truly have anything in common. I can completely see where her parents are coming from, and sorry to break it to you, but if they don't accept you now, they probably never will.
Jun 17, 2012 at 6:39 pm
Take her back to English Bay (see past post) .
Jun 17, 2012 at 7:34 pm
Who gives a fuck about the parents....
Jun 17, 2012 at 10:48 pm
As a man in his early 50's, I find that there ARE cool, open-minded,sexual ,kind, loving,mature & yes attractive women(but then, what is attractive?) etc,who are in their 40's & 50's.My guess is it could be a self-esteem issue perhaps?Or the thought of you aging, just a thought.
Jun 18, 2012 at 12:04 am
Just take her to YOUR parents now and have them call her a "geezer pleaser," "wrinkle rider," "necrophiliac," etc. Call it even and move on with your relationship. Problem solved.
Jun 18, 2012 at 12:16 am
You wanna know what makes a 40+ year old man Look so much older?
When he is holding the hand of a girl 20 years younger. just sayin
Think about it .
When he is holding the hand of a girl 20 years younger. just sayin
Think about it .
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