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posted Thursday, April 26, 2012 at 2:08pm
I am dying for someone to want me besides my partner, who I love dearly, but it's just not enough, I want more than anything for men not to just check me out and flirt with me but to actually make me feel like a sexual woman again. I want to have the passion of a new relationship and have someone fuck the shit out of me all day!
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Apr 26, 2012 at 4:02 pm
Is your man not satisfying you? Have you talked about it with him? If you love him 'dearly' then have a chat with him over a bottle of wine and talk about what you are wanting/needing. If this has been done, to no avail and he doesn't put any more effort into it then maybe you need to have a further conversation about having an open sexual relationship or dump his ass. Sex IS VERY IMPORTANT!!! of course there are other equally important aspects but if you are a sexual lady coupled with an a-sexual partner (like i was) it will not last long term unless you have your needs met. Best of luck!
PS try dressing up in a slutty outfit or toys! and porn is always good too!
PS try dressing up in a slutty outfit or toys! and porn is always good too!
Apr 26, 2012 at 4:14 pm
I'm with you! Love him dearly, but sure would be nice to feel like a hot little thing again.
Apr 26, 2012 at 4:30 pm
talk to him...ask him...tell him..email him...flirt with him...
TRUST ME...men love naughty texts and emails. If you can't talk face to face, start an email discussion...and certainly wine helps (as stated above).
If you still desire him, and life (kids, mortgage,etc) hasn't gotten to you and your relationship...then take the initiative and fuck him...Fucking blow his mind!
Sex is VERY important and being desired is even more important. Get your needs met and if he won't go for it...consider opening the relationship or getting out.
Good luck!
TRUST ME...men love naughty texts and emails. If you can't talk face to face, start an email discussion...and certainly wine helps (as stated above).
If you still desire him, and life (kids, mortgage,etc) hasn't gotten to you and your relationship...then take the initiative and fuck him...Fucking blow his mind!
Sex is VERY important and being desired is even more important. Get your needs met and if he won't go for it...consider opening the relationship or getting out.
Good luck!
Apr 26, 2012 at 6:10 pm
You people are disgusting. You're lucky to have someone. Try appreciating them (before you lose them), instead of being a shallow, horrible, selfish piece of garbage.
Apr 26, 2012 at 7:28 pm
Appreciate him... when life really starts to pile on, regardless of who you are with, sex will more than likely fall by the wayside. I'm not saying that it is inevitable, because it is something that you can work on, but the most important thing is to have a good man that loves you and that you can trust and depend on. Everyone always feels like they deserve to "have it all", but that sense of entitlement has produced a society full of divorce, addiction and desperately unhappy and lonely people.
Apr 26, 2012 at 10:21 pm
@Ugh
Well, that's how you win arguments: call them names! By the way, you're a moron! The poster is VENTING
Well, that's how you win arguments: call them names! By the way, you're a moron! The poster is VENTING
Apr 27, 2012 at 1:05 am
I can't even believe the people who claim she should shut up and just be happy with it! That is total garbage! Most people have sexual needs (unless a-sexual). And to not communicate those needs and to try to have them met is just crazy! That is like telling someone who wants to have a child with a partner thats not game to put a muzzle on it. Um no, how about finding a partner with similar desires??? Same goes for sex. Its kind of a big deal!!!
Apr 27, 2012 at 5:34 am
You are so lucky to have someone who loves you. I get it though, you want the romance and passion back. Sometimes, after being with someone for so long the mystery ends and it's just the both of you.
But, I am going to tell you something that I know to be a fact: You will never find a person that you can love and trust like the person you are with now and that my dear, means more than any fast lay.
Appreciate what you have because what you have is harder to find.
But, I am going to tell you something that I know to be a fact: You will never find a person that you can love and trust like the person you are with now and that my dear, means more than any fast lay.
Appreciate what you have because what you have is harder to find.
Apr 27, 2012 at 7:43 am
@I agree has captured the themes behind the unhappiness of many. We buy into the notion that we should have everything, always, and more...but life has often different plans. It's the unwelcome trials, complications, difficulties that on fact create lasting character and happiness. Not suggesting becoming someone who likes inflicting pain on themselves, but the difficulties do lead to the transformations that bring lasting happiness. I think that the quiet grace that the those terminally ill sometimes exhibit is a function of letting go of the 'have it all' illusion. Having said that, I am not sure that this is relevant to OP's lament. She hungers for sexual desire and a man to want her and just take her. Only thing I can suggest is to be direct, in a positive way with your male companion. Note- not as a complaint, but as an authentic expression of hearts desire. Take sts from there.
Apr 27, 2012 at 8:56 am
Nobody needs sex any more than they "need" cocaine. If you're talking about a "need" for sex, you're little more than a stimulant addict. And stimulant addicts tend to use people to get their fixes.
Apr 27, 2012 at 9:46 am
those of you who chastise her for her need of sex are the ones that have no sex drive bores in bed!
Apr 27, 2012 at 10:02 am
Wow, thank you all for you comments they have given me some perspective. I must tell you though that the man i am with is the most supportive, charming, giving, caring person I have meet ever, infact most people can't believe he is so wonderful. I am the problem. I don't want to be my super sexual self with him, me, not him. He would do whatever i ask, if i did ask. but i just don't want to with him :-(
Apr 27, 2012 at 1:44 pm
Clearly the grass is greener on the other side of the street. Best to go there.
Apr 27, 2012 at 2:08 pm
@OP I restate my previous thoughts...speak up, ask! If you can't/won't do that....then, yes you are the problem and seek help for that. If you aren't sexually attracted to him and never will be, then that needs to be sorted out. If you can't be sexual with 'him', b/c of shyness? good girl morals? there is help for that.
I am a woman in my early 40s and single would love to have a supportive, charming, giving, etc AND willing to 'do whatever I ask partner'. I would climb all over that man, day & night!!!
I am a woman in my early 40s and single would love to have a supportive, charming, giving, etc AND willing to 'do whatever I ask partner'. I would climb all over that man, day & night!!!
Apr 29, 2012 at 2:13 am
I understand where you're coming from. I'm in the exact same situation as you. I met someone last year who made me feel alive again.
But take my advice.... the path you're wishing to walk is not an easy one. Every day I struggle with the decisions I have made and it's a constant mind battle.
Yet I'm content with what I've decided to do. Don't judge.
But take my advice.... the path you're wishing to walk is not an easy one. Every day I struggle with the decisions I have made and it's a constant mind battle.
Yet I'm content with what I've decided to do. Don't judge.
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