How Long?

yes, all the time.

oh yes i miss you too are you still big bosomed and horny?

beautifully expressed ... u spoke 4 a lot of hearts here

Some days I see you cutting me off as denying me the greatest love.
Other days I see you cutting me off as denying yourself the greatest love.

It makes me so sad to see how many people can relate to this confession :( Geeze, kinda makes me wonder why people stop communicating with people for good like that. Is it just easier to block people out for good? I've had to temporarily desert relationships (after painful break-ups) but I've never shut anyone out forever. Seems kinda selfish and harsh......

@Anonymous--Unfortunately your intentions are irrelevant to the person being cut out. Because of the nature of this approach (ie: severing all ties) one end's up "teaching" the recipient a different lesson then intended or no lesson at all. Because this method can be confusing and particularly traumatic for the recipient, there's no way to predict their emotional reaction or coping mechanisms.

The only reason one should ever cut someone off is after careful consideration and for personal reasons. Chose this approach for yourself and keep in mind that in doing so, you relinquish all ties and connection to this person regardless of the positive or negative impact this may have on your future or theirs.

it's funny how ppl think you can just "move on." obv if it was that easy there wouldnt be a zillion love songs written about this shit and dozens of people relating to this post.

Well, if she didn't reciprocate the love you gave her, or feel the same way toward you as you did towards her then I wonder why you continued to remain attracted to her? As long as you clearly and respectfully told her the reasons why you couldn't remain friends, and included your confused attraction there's not much else you can do. The confession posted here was clearly written by someone who loved someone and is clearly suffering from the cut off---it doesn't sound like it was written by your narcissistic ex.

Re: Response to assuming.

It does not matter if i assume or not. If someone can not put their 'love' into action in a way that shows care and consideration for the person they 'love' they don't love them period. Love is an action not a word. I don't have to be neglected constantly to wait for someone to put their intentions into actions. Intentions words and feelings are great but nothing trumps actions.

@other poster. Yes i am sure it is not my narcissistic ex but that is not the point. If you make mistakes you learn from them and move on. The point is if someone who cared about you blocked you out. Maybe it's time to take a bit of accountability and start working on you and why they chose to go that route.

@anonymous: It sounds like you are angry still, and that you don't want to feel the burden that comes with the guilt of cutting someone off. Perhaps it puts your mind at ease to think that you are teaching them a lesson of some sort? Although that is a nice thought that they walk away better because of your decision (and yes it was a decision of yours) I have been cut-off and ignored before by a very dear friend of mine and the only lesson it taught me is that they had poor conflict resolution skills and that I should choose friends in the future who do not give-up on me. Love being a verb is something that can be shown numerous ways and how much patience you have while someone struggles to show their love in a way you understand it, is up to you. Was this person aware of their issues? We you aware of how reactions affected them? Where they seeking help? Did you see potential in this person/relationship? I know when I got cut-off that it scarred me deeply because I am genuinely a good person underneath my failings. I took it very personally and it took years to accept that their limitations and approach to their own suffering had nothing to do with me, I was doing the best I could and I didn't deserve how they handled it. To this day I feel it was them that missed-out and not just me... but that's just my point of view.