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You have my sympathy. That was a terrible thing for her to do. But there are good, honest women out there - hope this doesn't leave you with trust issues in the future. But I'm with you - I'd be tempted to let the husband know what she's up to - she's cheated on you (by lying about being married), she's cheated on him - and if she gets away with it, she'll do it again, because there are no consequences for her.

I feel badly for both you guys - you both deserve better than what she's done to you.

Damn bro, I feel your pain. I had a similar thing happen to me two years ago.....
Somewhat different situation, but the whole time she was with me she was cheating on me with some other guy. I found this out the hard way through a friend I trusted that told me the truth, this was after a year of being together. The day I chose to confront her was the same day she dumped me....and low and behold she had a wedding planned for the following weekend with this other dude. The other guy knew about it the whole time. I've never known why she did it to me or if it was just some sick fucking prank they wanted to try and get away with.....
It still fucks with me to this day... I try to maintain a positive outlook on dating now and my only advice to you is to try and do the same. There are good women out there and I've since then found one but the relationship is slow going for obvious reasons.... Try your best to move on, your better then her. Tell the other guy if you want but it's only going to drag it out longer...and whose to say he'll believe you anyways?
Wish you luck with refraining from bitterness and hate.

This happened to you. If you loved her she probably did too. If you think for a moment she was truest in love with you then know that there is no way she is not also devistated by what happened between you. She was probably unhappy at home and then you came along. You will probably never know how much she loved you and probably always will.

Im sure you feel terrible. I'm sorry for that. But... Can you immagine how her husband feels, if he has any idea. Immagine you thought your wife was hanging with her girl friends or at yoga and she's shaggin some guy for two years!

You have to rat her out. It's the right thing to do!!! I'm sure you would want to know.
When people decide to cheat, they risk getting caught. They still do it. So let them be held accountable.

@Sorry: You are dumb as fuck. Noone who loves their man would LIE to them for two years about being MARRIED. For two years, the life she lived was a complete lie. Only sick, selfish people can lie about such major things in their lives. I don't know how she could even feel like a decent person after being such a complete fraud for so long. There is something wrong with that. I would never, EVER do that to someone. That's fucked up.

@the OP: What she did to you was wrong. You deserve so much better and by the sounds of it, you can do a WHOLE lot better. If she loved you and if she ever loved her husband she wouldn't have been so horribly deceitful to the both of you. I would tell her husband. Not even kidding you. She deserves to suffer the consequences of her actions. She wanted to have her cake and eat it too... She played both of you like idiots and if she gets away with it, she wins her sick, twisted mind games and will move on to the next unknowing pawn. Don't be sad, that bitch is a loser. Someone else will treat you like a king and you'll be thankful that nut is out of your life.

Thanks for your postS. I did spenT weekends, weekdays, drove her to work, talked on phone, emailed, she stayed over. Met her kid. I was not allowed over at her house because of her other child she said. I know where she lives etc. It took almost two years to figure out something was wrong. Her behavior change. I met her friends, she met mine. This past December we did not see each other for the whole month. I wanted her over but she stalled. She called Xmas day. After sitting alone til January. I confronted her. She then said best we don't see each other anymore. That's when the light came on. After a few months OF confusion and asking her to talk to me. She said she was returning to her husband but in reality she was always with him. I did some investigating as well AND SAW THEM together. I gave her a chance to tell me. She said trying marriage again. I'm a very intelligent man but she was good. She took me as far as she could then ended it because i wanted more. I loved her and she loved me so she said. I did not expect to go through this pain of death. I think she is responsible for her actions. She don't care what I think now and I'm confused of what was real and what was not. Will i tell her husband? Not sure yet. She met my mother, family etc. It's amazing that a person can take you on a journey like this. I'm just letting you know my story. I'm sure she will do it again. I'm not sure if i can tell him because i'm better than that. I think if i did her life would crumble. It's something i struggle with.