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posted Wednesday, June 20, 2012 at 10:20pm
I'm a tolerant guy,nice(although in my opinion had a history of having being too nice, polite,quiet,kind of shy,listen to others while me not voicing my opinion & not being assertive),not a creepy perv, yet I am sexual,open-minded,non-judgmental ,been told that I don't look my age, cool, attractive,yet not in a Ed Hardy, Rodeo Drive etc way,cool taste in music etc,etc. But it's the shyness, being polite & having no balls, no backbone which has been a problem, I have come along way & feel good,do different things, I even go to English Bay a lot even if everyone there is with friends,girlfriends, boyfriends & I'm there by myself,but I dwell that I may never have a girl in my life, I'm in my early 50's & I certainly don't want a 20 year old girlfriend, someone my age range, I am on POF, maybe I worry too much about but yes I do worry about it.Thanks for putting up with this confession or vent.
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Jun 21, 2012 at 1:23 am
ask a woman OUT, it starts there. pretty simple
women want a man that can be assertive, take charge etc.
I cant stand guys that are so laid back and expect women to be the man. YOU are. so make the move. confidence is sexy! (so is dressing well, a suit is hot, but so are a great pair of jeans and a fitted shirt and SHOES because women DO notice a mans shoes) if you wait, and don't take a chance one thing for sure is You WILL remain single
PS . get OFF POF, that is strictly for losers,you will never meet anyone of substance or value there. if you really feel the need to try online sites pick one that requires a membership. you will meet others who are serious to find someone and not just messing around trying to fill a void during the day(usually when they are at work and using you for entertainment). you could be wasting valuable time online and time waits for no man..(and no woman)
good luck
women want a man that can be assertive, take charge etc.
I cant stand guys that are so laid back and expect women to be the man. YOU are. so make the move. confidence is sexy! (so is dressing well, a suit is hot, but so are a great pair of jeans and a fitted shirt and SHOES because women DO notice a mans shoes) if you wait, and don't take a chance one thing for sure is You WILL remain single
PS . get OFF POF, that is strictly for losers,you will never meet anyone of substance or value there. if you really feel the need to try online sites pick one that requires a membership. you will meet others who are serious to find someone and not just messing around trying to fill a void during the day(usually when they are at work and using you for entertainment). you could be wasting valuable time online and time waits for no man..(and no woman)
good luck
Jun 21, 2012 at 3:40 am
I totally agree with the first comment poster. Truer words were never spoken.
Jun 21, 2012 at 8:42 am
Not all women like the same thing. Not all women want "the man to be the man" whatever that means. Men are all over the map as are women. ie. they want as many varieties of men as men want varieties of women. I'm sorry you haven't found someone to connect with. I'm told Vancouver is a tough city that way and many people (apparently 1/3 feel lonely.. from a recent article report). Remember there are tons of lonely people who stay inside and don't get out there so you're seeing a skewed sample when you see mostly coupled people on your walks. It is much more socially acceptable to go out in groups or with another so don't be hard on yourself. At least you're getting out there. Good luck.
Jun 21, 2012 at 10:12 am
I'm pretty similar to the poster (except I DEFINITELY have an opinion, hah!) Look, women are 100x better at reading body language than I am. So you know if I'm interested in you, and I have no clue whether or not you're interested in me. And I'm really not interested in putting 20 women who have no interest in me through the hassle of finding a way to tactfully turn me down in the hopes of stumbling over one woman who's interested in me but doesn't have the ovaries to tell me. More than that, I have some pretty awesome platonic girlfriends these days, and they're a hellofalot better company than someone who's mainly interested in my shoes.
So if you're interested in me, tell me. Or don't, I don't care. But if you're not interested enough to tell me, I'm not missing out on anything by not asking you out.
PS: I met my last girlfriend on POF, and although it didn't last she made my life better.
So if you're interested in me, tell me. Or don't, I don't care. But if you're not interested enough to tell me, I'm not missing out on anything by not asking you out.
PS: I met my last girlfriend on POF, and although it didn't last she made my life better.
Jun 21, 2012 at 11:36 am
I agree with "well". Last month a guy walked right up to me and politely invited me out (something that seems very rare her in Vancouver). I was so impressed with his confidence, and I wish more men would do this. You might also want to check out Meetup.com. It's a sight where you can join different groups to go out and do things. It's a great way to meet other people in a relaxed environment.
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