rough patch posted December 6th, 2012 at 4:33 AM i'm going through a month long rough patch with my partner and don't know what to do. i flip between 'stay together' and 'break up' constantly. woe is me Show 6 Comments post a comment 6 Comments Post a Comment Frank O Dec 6, 2012 at 9:59am When in doubt throw it out. General public Dec 6, 2012 at 10:42am My grandma said " true love is a face you know you can wake up to everyday without going nuts" . Good luck with whichever you pick been there Dec 6, 2012 at 5:12pm going through rough patches is okay. you gotta ask yourself, how often they are happening, and for how long...if your year is filled with month long rough patches then perhaps its time to say goodbye. it doesn't get better, it usually gets worse. if these rough patches keep happening perhaps you two are not compatible...it really comes down to how often, how long and..over what. it could be true underlying differences in your personalities. Screw that! Dec 6, 2012 at 9:29pm Chuck it in the fuck it bucket! Experienced Dec 7, 2012 at 3:25am Sometimes it's easy to see what's wrong instead of noticing what's right. Maybe your partner feels the same way? Communication & honesty is key. Simply 'throwing it out' is childish... If this person means anything to you, or ever has, then try to work it out. Chickiepoo Dec 7, 2012 at 7:37am There's a book out there - I think it's called "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" written by an American counsellor. She has the reader go through a series of tests and describes various situations - and at the end of each situation, tells you the odds of the situation improving or not. (I read it, gosh, over 10 years ago so my memory is a little hazy.) But it might help - I got it from the library so it's out there and might be worth tracking down. It's a tough situation to be in - but of course, you want to have some certainty before you make any decisions. If it's only been a month, then it might just be a glitch. If, however, this last month is an accumulation of resentment, issues, etc. and it's just come to a head, that's a different story. Seeing a good counsellor might also help you to decide. Best of luck! Join the Discussion Your name Comment * gs email To prevent automated spam submissions leave this field empty.