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posted Wednesday, June 13, 2012 at 7:15am
I sometimes wonder what people think when they see me and my boyfriend out together. I hate that he's not 'attractive' per se, and I hate whispers of people commenting on how I can 'do better'. Most of all, I hate how confessing this makes me sounds like a shallow, conceited bitch-- but I can't help it. I care about what people think, and it worries me that he reflects poorly on my image. I wish he were better looking.
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Jun 13, 2012 at 11:13 am
Don't feel bad. I was in the same situation. I dated a guy at work with a lazy eye and not "conventionally" good looking and I used to have thoughts like you do all the time and felt bad about it until the day he said to me " I like it when people look at us and I can see on their faces "Why is she with him?" or "How did he get a girl like that." If you're boyfriend is self-aware in the least he's already aware of what people think when they see you guys together. He might just be as shallow as you feel for having the thoughts you do. Don't worry too much about it. I've learned that if the sex is great, he treats you right and in the end you love each other that's all that should matter. But I do have to agree with you on the level that socially and sometimes professionally he may hold you back, your choice in a partner is reflective of you. That's how most people will see it and first impressions are everything, sometimes.
Jun 13, 2012 at 12:57 pm
re:"I care about what people think, and it worries me that he reflects poorly on my image." what??? Your image??..I would suggest you work on YOUR charactor...we already know that what reflects "poorly on Your image" is YOU.
Jun 13, 2012 at 1:32 pm
*Character, what is with people not being able to spell on this site? I cannot take your opinions seriously when you cannot spell! Christ.
On another note: I agree with 'Can relate'. I mean, you're already dating the guy, so you can't be THAT shallow. Hold your head up high, and if anyone gives you shit for being with him, then screw them. At least you know that you have a decent man who appreciates you- that's something we all need in our lives!
On another note: I agree with 'Can relate'. I mean, you're already dating the guy, so you can't be THAT shallow. Hold your head up high, and if anyone gives you shit for being with him, then screw them. At least you know that you have a decent man who appreciates you- that's something we all need in our lives!
Jun 13, 2012 at 6:26 pm
He reflects poorly on your image? Find yourself a 'mimbo', have a great image (still wondering what the fuck that is...) and get treated like shit or cheated on.
Wow, I thought image was just some bullshit used to sell you something but now I've learned that people out there actually believe it is something real and worthy. Sad shit indeed. Imagine that.
Wow, I thought image was just some bullshit used to sell you something but now I've learned that people out there actually believe it is something real and worthy. Sad shit indeed. Imagine that.
Jun 13, 2012 at 7:01 pm
извините меня . yes( I am russian,french and swedish with characto(e)r..lol and a sexy accent ) and though I MAY make a typing error or two, I am not a pompous ass. i dont stress about the spelling on a forum such as this, where the confessions and writing are extremely juvenile. ie does he likes me?,is she better?,i screw everything, am i pretty,?is he hot enough? I am so hot..? every post the same
too many insecure women in this town that need constant affirmation. stressing about my spelling error just shows you are missing the big picture. I am not the topic. I get enough attention :)
too many insecure women in this town that need constant affirmation. stressing about my spelling error just shows you are missing the big picture. I am not the topic. I get enough attention :)
Jun 13, 2012 at 7:29 pm
Another great confession! Remember to live your life for you. Don't sacrifice too much of yourself just to take the supposed high ground. Pretend you are 60 looking back, then ask why you chose that particular path. Don't be afraid to listen to your voice.
Jun 13, 2012 at 8:21 pm
When I see an attractive girl with an average looking guy I say to myself she must really like him for him and not be shallow like the majority of people. Who cares what people think. The only thing that should matter in you're relationship is both of you.
Jun 13, 2012 at 8:39 pm
I bet your boyfriend is thinking "why am I with such a shallow dolt? People are talking about this. It lowers their respect for me since I'm dating a twit."
Jun 14, 2012 at 5:31 pm
I'm with Roger1234. As a guy, when i see a beautiful woman with an average looking bloke (lucky for us scruffy manfolk it's actually quite common), i think it says a lot about that woman's character. It actually says to me that you are NOT shallow and concerned about your 'image'. If you are genuinely attracted to your guy - fuck what what others think and say.
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