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posted Sunday, May 6, 2012 at 12:59pm
Just looking for four things in a woman. Good heart, good head on her shoulders, a job of some kind, cute enough to attract my eye. To me this doesn't seem like a lot but is mission impossible in Vancouver. I am beginning to think at 28 maybe all of the decent woman in my age bracket are married and I am left with whats left.
Anyone else think there is a lack of quality woman in this city?
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May 6, 2012 at 1:45 pm
Why is it that you want a woman?
May 6, 2012 at 2:47 pm
it's not quality, it's their mindset. The young adult women in this city see too many BMW driving, suit wearing real estate mogul types and believe they can get that. They forget that not all men need to wear a suit and drive an expensive car to be a decent dude.
and yoga. they do too much yoga. fuck yoga.
and yoga. they do too much yoga. fuck yoga.
May 6, 2012 at 4:11 pm
Please don't take this as an excuse, and I'm not blaming all of you... but you can kinda thank men in the 20-30 age range for why the smart women have gone into hiding or attached themselves to someone half-decent. That generation of men have a serious case of "I want the perfect woman from day one" complex. They are all in love with this idealized female and are not willing to overlook faults or change themselves in any way shape or form. Too many available women on internet dating sites have made guys treat us as perfectly replaceable. So we get tired of the let-downs and heartache. Essentially, a lot of us have given up.
May 6, 2012 at 4:16 pm
I know quite a few.
Sadly for them I am gay.
May I suggest being yourself, be true to yourself, and trusting the process.
Good things come to those who trust, not wait.
Sadly for them I am gay.
May I suggest being yourself, be true to yourself, and trusting the process.
Good things come to those who trust, not wait.
May 6, 2012 at 4:35 pm
You can find those qualities if you're willing to go older....
May 6, 2012 at 5:10 pm
a lack of quality men as well...
May 6, 2012 at 6:32 pm
Gold diggers, sluts, pigs, cheaters, always someone better, lame in bed.. That's pretty much 90 percent. Good luck.
May 6, 2012 at 7:07 pm
I agree with OP, all the women here I've found myself most attracted to in personality and looks, I shortly learn are already in serious relationships.
Pretty Smart Woman is also totally correct in my opinion, except I'm a guy and from my perspective the comments apply to women in that age range, maybe even a bit higher. ;)
To PSW: One exception, yeah, generally guys won't change for a woman trying to control them (and that's how it comes across), we want to be accepted for who we are. Most regular guys don't look for perfection.
Pretty Smart Woman is also totally correct in my opinion, except I'm a guy and from my perspective the comments apply to women in that age range, maybe even a bit higher. ;)
To PSW: One exception, yeah, generally guys won't change for a woman trying to control them (and that's how it comes across), we want to be accepted for who we are. Most regular guys don't look for perfection.
May 6, 2012 at 10:06 pm
I could write your same confession from a woman's perspective. Where have all the good hearted, single, loyal, motivated men gone? As PSW said, most of us single, late 20s ladys have gone into hiding.. We don't want a BMW driving player we want someone who will be a gentleman and respect us.
May 6, 2012 at 11:22 pm
Speaking as a fellow male of roughly the same age, I have to say that my experience is the opposite of yours. I know a lot of single women who would be fantastic steady partners for the right man (And yes, I'm in a long-term relationship with one of them). It's been that way for all my adult life, the "good catch" surplus has always seemed to skew towards the female side. So if you really are a good man, just have some faith in yourself and hope that your luck will even out.
One other thing about this question is that Vancouver is a huge place. It isn't like there's only 100 Women and only 5 places to meet them. There are thousands of single women all over the place, and if you try shaking up your routine you might be able to meet more of them. There are probably clusters where there's no many good women, and clusters where there are.
One other thing about this question is that Vancouver is a huge place. It isn't like there's only 100 Women and only 5 places to meet them. There are thousands of single women all over the place, and if you try shaking up your routine you might be able to meet more of them. There are probably clusters where there's no many good women, and clusters where there are.
May 7, 2012 at 11:08 am
I agree with Also a Pretty Single Woman. From my personal dating experience in this city, I would have to say that a large number of men (I'm sure women as well) are complete players. I have a good heart, and yet all I've encountered are men that just want to get me into bed as quickly as possible (and yes, I met these men in all kinds of different places and situations). It's a pity that more people aren't putting value on the right things. It ruins it for all of the good people out there, whom I would agree have gone into hiding.
May 7, 2012 at 1:06 pm
I agree with most of the comments and I see both sides.meeting members of the opposite sex isnt hard but finding the best one for you is where the challenge is. Though in my experience, in this town I seem to attract the younger men 21-33 yet I would much rather meet and date someone 42 (my age). it might be flattering to some just not to me. and if the men of my group continually seek out younger women it throws this natural balance off. Maybe thats why young men cant find anyone in this town to date . Girls between 21-30 (not all but several in Vancouver) want the BMW,large penthouse,suit men between 40-50 (probably divorced atleast once) since they are set in their careers and have their finances in order (minus the alimony and child support). unfortunately, that leaves the successful,attractive women over 40 to date the younger men.
No wonder most relationships fail and the game playing is so strong . They are settling themselves up for failure from the start. Most successful (long term) relationships have a common foundation..AGE is one of them. Lets hope in the next ten years as we come to our senses and figure this out. for marraige (and relationship) sake. til then i'm hiding.
No wonder most relationships fail and the game playing is so strong . They are settling themselves up for failure from the start. Most successful (long term) relationships have a common foundation..AGE is one of them. Lets hope in the next ten years as we come to our senses and figure this out. for marraige (and relationship) sake. til then i'm hiding.
May 7, 2012 at 4:06 pm
Its simple. Quality woman want quality men. Woman 25+ are looking for a man that can show them more, be responsible respectful.
Women look towards the future and wonder if the man they are with, (or potentially going to date) have an substance.
If you are serious about being with an smart attractive woman and you still ride a skateboard, drink too much, or are lazy and have no ambition.. we're not interested. We want love, respect, and to know that we have a bright future (that doesn't mean money) it means knowing we won't have to worry about players, fakes, drama, or taking care of a man. Its pretty simple.
Women look towards the future and wonder if the man they are with, (or potentially going to date) have an substance.
If you are serious about being with an smart attractive woman and you still ride a skateboard, drink too much, or are lazy and have no ambition.. we're not interested. We want love, respect, and to know that we have a bright future (that doesn't mean money) it means knowing we won't have to worry about players, fakes, drama, or taking care of a man. Its pretty simple.
May 7, 2012 at 6:01 pm
It seems pretty obvious that you're surrounding yourself with the wrong type of women. I suggest that you expand your horizon by taking on greater hobbies and interests, where you can meet like minded women. ie, not at a bar. And just as a general statement not only to the original poster, but the rest of you complaining about Vancouver's women and men, the problem isn't the city, it's you. Grow up and take responsibility for why you're allowing these shallow people into your life. Birds of a feather, flock together.
May 8, 2012 at 10:25 am
Hey didn't I tell me to stop. When will I learn. Me, myself and I should get a website that everyone of you could post on. MeMeMe.com I should really get over myself. But of course I know that I am the MOST clever. Right? Yes I'm right. See, I told me.
May 8, 2012 at 11:21 am
Also... If you have a drug problem or serious emotional issues please seek help for these things before trying to date us. We will find out and it will be disappointing for both parties.
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