posted Wednesday, May 16, 2012 at 5:11pm
I think it's really funny how many people think that they are "getting away" with doing things that they know isn't right or would upset those who found out. I have friends who have been trying to conceal an intimate friendship because they know it would hurt someone, or make things awkward professionally. They go out of their way to not mention each other in their social media statuses yet both update from the same travel locations, or events. Those dummies aside, I have another married friend who has a secret FWB, most of us know what's going on but don't mention it. From the sidelines I watch dishonest people suffering from their own web of fibs, guilt and slow self-sabotage. They think they're "having their cake and eating it too" while "protecting" others from the truth. In fact though...they are cowardly, ego driven people. They insult the strength and intelligence of those around them by assuming that the truth would be just too "devastatingly" hard for their friends to handle. They think that there is just "no other way" to be. It's really quite sad. Just because no one is calling you out right now, doesn't mean we don't know or feel a negative "hunch"- we are not fools. Eventually it will all come out in the wash and you will be held accountable... so please, have enough respect for your friends, and enough self-respect to bite the bullet and just be honest.