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posted Saturday, June 16, 2012 at 7:08pm
You blocked me on Facebook (reasonable)....You stopped replying to my emails (reasonable)....You didn't reply to my Christmas card (okay I get it)...You avoided eye contact & left the movie theatre when I showed up with my friends (it happens with nerves)...but now you've changed you phone number. I don't understand? I wasn't calling you or writing you everyday, We were together for 8 years, and now It's been a couple years since you broke it off with me. What's up? How can I find away to apologize to you more? I just don't get it....
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Jun 16, 2012 at 8:42 pm
guess they're now just somebody that you used to know?
Jun 16, 2012 at 8:45 pm
She obviously doesn't want to have anything to do with you. She doesn't want to see you, hear from you or be reminded of you. It's been two years and it is time for you to let her go and stop obsessing. Do yourself a favour and move on!
Jun 16, 2012 at 9:12 pm
Some people are horrible quitters.
I suggest that you try getting a skywriter or something.
I suggest that you try getting a skywriter or something.
Jun 16, 2012 at 9:53 pm
They left the movie theater when you showed-up 2 YEARS after they dumped you??? This person clearly has unresolved issues towards you still and they sound immature. Don't take it personal. Enough time has gone by that you can stop blaming yourself.
Jun 16, 2012 at 9:55 pm
move on
Jun 16, 2012 at 10:06 pm
just leave the poor girl alone. She obviously wants to leave the past in the past. I had someone similar act this way and it made me feel really creeped out about the person. Get some help if you can't move on. It really isn't fair to her or you.
Jun 16, 2012 at 10:09 pm
I've "moved on" for the most part, but it's hard to pretend that someone I was with for almost 10 years is a stranger. It's freaking weird! Plus I care that there is still this unresolved bullshit between us....I don't like anyone suffering for so long, especially because of me, especially someone I cared so much for. Seems lame to just throw all that time away and lessons we learned together when we could use that build some kind of friendship.... or if that's too crazy then at least acknowledge each other in public!! Vancouver is not that big of a city. I don't get people who can just shove shit to the back of their minds like this.....
Jun 17, 2012 at 3:16 am
@OP I understand but there is nothing you can do anymore. This happened to me too with one of my long-term relationship exes. He didn't change his # or anything, but a couple years after I wanted to be friends again, I tried to see how he was doing and say hello but I got hung-up on. I don't know how people can just act like someone doesn't exist, it's really cruel and unnecessary.
Jun 17, 2012 at 3:41 am
They have made contacting them impossible under any circumstance. Therefore, they have left you with only one choice; acceptance.
Jun 17, 2012 at 7:46 am
Sounds like they tossed-in the towel and didn't see a future with you. Even your occasional contact was annoying for them and you weren't taking the hint. Finally they just changed their number without explanation to avoid having to "deal" with you on any level. This isn't your problem, they just don't like the feelings you bring out in them, maybe guilt or anger? An emotionally healed/mature person can handle a simple "hello" from an ex two years after the fact. Who needs pleasantries from a avoidant ex like this anyway? They would just be doing it for charity.
Jun 17, 2012 at 8:38 am
"They have made contacting them impossible under any circumstance"
That is not really true. He could use a process server.
That is not really true. He could use a process server.
Jun 17, 2012 at 9:02 am
Relationships are a mystery. You're acting like a guy, you want to understand and 'fix' the 'problem'.
There is nothing to fix and there is no problem. This is about feelings, and there is no explanation. You're a free man, breath deep and enjoy your independence.
There is nothing to fix and there is no problem. This is about feelings, and there is no explanation. You're a free man, breath deep and enjoy your independence.
Jun 17, 2012 at 9:03 am
If you're dead in her eyes, she has a reason. Move on or she could accuse you of criminal harassment (stalking) and report you to the police simply by you being in her air space, even if unintentional. I speak from experience. Just take a chill pill and leave it be, life's too short to wallow.
Jun 17, 2012 at 9:39 am
Ouch. Sorry you have such a shitty ex. Better luck next time.
Jun 17, 2012 at 9:55 am
Why the hell do you keep trying to give them more chances?!? Close the door already they aren't gonna reconcile with you! Just thank your fucking lucky stars you didn't have kids with this cold-ass coward!
Jun 17, 2012 at 10:56 am
The best revenge is a life lived well....get yourself a beautiful incredible girl and leave the past behind. Today is the first day of the rest of your new life.
Jun 17, 2012 at 1:28 pm
Pick someone Who wants you...and not someone who no longer does.
Jun 17, 2012 at 1:55 pm
It is time to move on, dear. This was not meant to last forever.
You came into each other's lives, and parted after you achieved what you both were meant to from this experience.
Some spiritualists believe that we have 5 soul mates per life.
It is time to let go. Quit resisting. You are only creating more suffering and blocking yourself from true love.
You will love again. It's a guarantee. Your next relationship will be more evolved if you take the time to focus on you and face your own demons.
This is not about him anymore. Move on with love.
You came into each other's lives, and parted after you achieved what you both were meant to from this experience.
Some spiritualists believe that we have 5 soul mates per life.
It is time to let go. Quit resisting. You are only creating more suffering and blocking yourself from true love.
You will love again. It's a guarantee. Your next relationship will be more evolved if you take the time to focus on you and face your own demons.
This is not about him anymore. Move on with love.
Jun 17, 2012 at 2:30 pm
I could have written this! Same thing happened to me....my long-term ex let us die a slooooow death, it was torture! I hung onto hope and trying to reconcile for soooo long!!!
The last few arguments always ended with less communication.... Fb block one time, a few weeks later emails stopped... then one day... *snap!*--phone number is changed and it's cold shoulder time in ice town.
If I ever run into the ex I get treated like I am either stalking them or I have a contagious disease, and it's still the same even though it's been a few years now. Part of me feels like they picked fights so they could justify their abandonment approach because it made it easier on them to leave angry. It's harsh,harsh,harsh. 6 years down the drain. Yeah I messed-up lots with them, but I didn't deserve to be pissed on even after they dumped me!! It's easy to want to keep trying to make it better, but there comes a time when you have to say to yourself you took their punishment long enough.
The last few arguments always ended with less communication.... Fb block one time, a few weeks later emails stopped... then one day... *snap!*--phone number is changed and it's cold shoulder time in ice town.
If I ever run into the ex I get treated like I am either stalking them or I have a contagious disease, and it's still the same even though it's been a few years now. Part of me feels like they picked fights so they could justify their abandonment approach because it made it easier on them to leave angry. It's harsh,harsh,harsh. 6 years down the drain. Yeah I messed-up lots with them, but I didn't deserve to be pissed on even after they dumped me!! It's easy to want to keep trying to make it better, but there comes a time when you have to say to yourself you took their punishment long enough.
Jun 17, 2012 at 6:13 pm
I can't believe no one has asked this yet, but how do you know her number has changed since you broke up years ago? Obviously you've called it recently to discover this. Now why you think that someone you broke up with years ago, and who has blocked you every other way, would want to talk to you is beyond me. For God's sake - move on! This girl has made it sooo clear that she wants no contact with you (short of posting a neon sign above her house). You say that you've moved on, but then you talk about unresolved things and being friends. If this girl wanted to resolve things or be friends she would have done so a long time ago (it takes two to make those things happen). She obviously just wants to move on with her life. You guys are done, it's over, accept that you're not going to resolve things, accept that you're not going to be friends, accept that you're not going to suddenly convince her to start talking to you. She is no longer part of your life. Move on.
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