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posted Friday, August 3, 2012 at 4:31pm
i'm afraid that being happily married isn't a real thing. i'm in my early twenties and am not looking to get married yet, but i just hear about so much divorce and long term relationships ending it makes me wonder if it is possible to be happy with one person for the rest of your life. are you happily married? is it possible?
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Aug 3, 2012 at 4:52 pm
Absolutely. Married 27 years...and happily. You just have to find that person who is your best friend and than it works out great. Was very lucky though, it doesn't happen for everyone...
Aug 3, 2012 at 5:44 pm
There's also the chance that you might never find the right person.
I'm in my early 30s and single for, and never imagined this would happen. I was always dating, or in a relationship, until around 29 or 30. Suddenly, I couldn't meet anyone. Now the years are passing me by, and I think I've missed the boat. I may never find "the one". It's a sad, scary realization.
I'm in my early 30s and single for, and never imagined this would happen. I was always dating, or in a relationship, until around 29 or 30. Suddenly, I couldn't meet anyone. Now the years are passing me by, and I think I've missed the boat. I may never find "the one". It's a sad, scary realization.
Aug 3, 2012 at 8:45 pm
just remember to pick a man..that is
1. age appropriate (within 3-8 years, though with greater age gaps usually run the risk of being in different stages of life and rarely do they last more than 5-7 years of marriage),
2.has the same beliefs and values you do,
3 You understand and accept his goals in life.
4 You are on the same page ie; you either both want children or you dont, as an example...you both eant to travel or not, etc...
5. YOU accept the man as he is, because he will not change. IF you think he will, you will be forever unhappy.
YES happily ever after does exist. IF the man chooses the right woman and the right woman says YES.
1. age appropriate (within 3-8 years, though with greater age gaps usually run the risk of being in different stages of life and rarely do they last more than 5-7 years of marriage),
2.has the same beliefs and values you do,
3 You understand and accept his goals in life.
4 You are on the same page ie; you either both want children or you dont, as an example...you both eant to travel or not, etc...
5. YOU accept the man as he is, because he will not change. IF you think he will, you will be forever unhappy.
YES happily ever after does exist. IF the man chooses the right woman and the right woman says YES.
Aug 4, 2012 at 3:13 am
Why is marriage so important ? It's overrated I think. shouldn't finding someone you like well enough you dont want to stab them good enough? Someone to share the good times and the bad? And monogamy....that's overrated. Believing there is one person to suit all your needs. LOad of rubbish I think. For some of us, there is no "one". There is no perfect match. Just be with one you, respect, that has common dreams and aspirations. that laughs at the same shit. That is fuckable.
Aug 4, 2012 at 4:12 am
All those faithful happily married couples you see are just lying, it's all a mass conspiracy cover-up. Everybody is either unhappy or screwing someone else behind the other person's back. Human beings are like wild uncivilized animals. Wedding vows made by every single person are lies made by ever single person out there. Gay and lesbians are risking their lives fighting for the right to get married because they feel left out of this conspiracy. NEVER GET MARRIED! NONE OF IT'S REAL! You might as well just give up all hope and die single and afraid!!!! ...don't tell me you believed any of what I just wrote...that would be as dumb as your confession.
Aug 4, 2012 at 12:48 pm
I have many of the same Qs as you, OP. I don't want to be a pessimist, but it often boils down to pure random luck. The first five years of my relationship to my ex-husband were so wonderful. We were best friends, confidants, great lovers, with all the same values and goals. Older couples often told us that we were role models for them. Then it all went to hell in a hand basket. The last 10 years of marriage were utter misery. Something changed & we never figured out what it was.
So, if you really want it--marriage that is--roll the dice. Good luck!
So, if you really want it--marriage that is--roll the dice. Good luck!
Aug 4, 2012 at 3:10 pm
Marraige, being best friends, confidants, great lovers, with all the same values and goals, are the basics...... when you say:" Something changed & we never figured out what it was'.
I'm guessing what changed was........... the importance .
I'm guessing what changed was........... the importance .
Aug 4, 2012 at 4:16 pm
i don't know what the answer is. i know people are in my life for a reason. often turns out to be another opportunity to learn more about myself. i think we are all living for some reason. i believe we are our own unique journey in life. the better we know and love ourselves gives us a better chance to know and love another. the more i can love and accept who i am allows me to love and accept others. finding a person with the same values, morals, beliefs is possible. the challenge is to find a meeting of the soul with the spirit in love. sometimes people change and grow but the person they are with does not. when a relationship becomes toxic,unhealthy and unloving it is time to let go. it's wonderful when the relationship is effortless...because there is harmony love and peace. i think deep down inside when we are honest with ourselves all we really need is love. the greatest gift is to love and to be loved in return. without strings, conditions, or ultimatums. just pure love...giving and receiving...there is no beginning....there is no ending. Peace + Love + Love + Peace
Aug 4, 2012 at 9:11 pm
Yes, it is possible. But it's not easy; from the time two people come together from the first physical attraction, to the point of thinking a bit farther ahead - there are so, so many different stages of married life - kids, jobs, loss of jobs, aging, health issues - all of which have the possibility of destroying he marriage, or making it stronger. It really is true that you have to work at a marriage. To remember why you fell in love with that person in the first place. To put the other person - and your kids - ahead of yourself. To walk away from the chance to have an affair. To realize that happiness is not found in material things, but family and friends. When people lose site of the truly important things, that's when marriages fail. We live in a superficial and shallow world, one that's always telling us that we 'can be happier.'. It's easy to forget what's important.
Whew. Too much philosophy. Time to go to the Cactus Club for a little perspective, I think.
Whew. Too much philosophy. Time to go to the Cactus Club for a little perspective, I think.
Aug 4, 2012 at 10:09 pm
nice comment P-F (for a change, congrats) i was impressed with your honest answer, then............confused
is the Cactus Club whether you find YOUR perspective??.. lol
oh boy, hope I dont run into you there....or maybe??..hmmm jk
is the Cactus Club whether you find YOUR perspective??.. lol
oh boy, hope I dont run into you there....or maybe??..hmmm jk
Aug 5, 2012 at 6:25 am
I was just having some fun at at end.
Truth be told,I hope that people have happy and fulfilling relationships, though that's not always possible. I really feel bad for kids when parents divorce. It's never a good thing. No one goes into a marriage thinking that they'll get divorced, and kids will always wish that their parents could have been better,that they could have made it work.
Truth be told,I hope that people have happy and fulfilling relationships, though that's not always possible. I really feel bad for kids when parents divorce. It's never a good thing. No one goes into a marriage thinking that they'll get divorced, and kids will always wish that their parents could have been better,that they could have made it work.
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