posted Thursday, June 26, 2014 at 5:09pm
There's a guy I barely even know, who keeps telling me he's in love with me and will not stop hitting on me. He flatters me constantly, tries way too hard to win me over. I've made it very clear I do not return his feelings.
I have things going on in my life, I found out yesterday that my cancer has spread. My gramma and aunt are in town. It's my gram's birthday today, she's 95. We're having a dinner for her. He acted like a big sucky baby when I told him I was leaving for home.
I think my mistake was that I was too nice to him for too long. I have learned that being nice will get you dumped on by emotional train wrecks. This guy is nearly 50 and he should know better. If I have to start ignoring him or being nasty to him, then I'll go hang out elsewhere.
I go out to relax and have fun; he's ruining that completely for me. He asks to sit at my table and I say sure, it's a free country. Should I just say No, it's not ok next time?? How can he not get that I will never be interested in him in a romantic way? It's pathetic. I'm not a person who enjoys hurting other people, but I wonder if it's come to that.
Obviously, there have been times when I've been interested in a man and he doesn't return my feelings. I do not stalk him, or harass him to try and change his mind.
I sort of hope he reads this and knows who this is directed at. I hope he will be mature enough to take it in stride and not give me the cold shoulder. If that's what he chooses to do, so be it. I have no control over the actions of other people.
My problems include wondering how much longer I have to live; his neediness is not only a turn off, but it's rather insulting. Get a clue - you are so close to the bottom of my life's list of things that matter.
I will be your friend or foe, it's up to you. Please try to be an adult about it.