posted Friday, May 2, 2014 at 7:13am
After being single for about five years, I've fallen for someone I've known for years - he hadn't been available until recently (no, I hadn't pined for him before - it wasn't like that). I had no idea how we'd hit it off because he seemed a bit quiet for me. It turns out we're an excellent match. My confession: he wasn't everything 'on my list'. I'd been used to dating younger guys, and he's a bit older than I am. He has gray hair and wrinkles. I was concerned that the sex department would be lacking. Ha! He is the loveliest man and the best thing that's ever happened to me. I gave him time and patience (as he had some emotional stuff to deal with) and I have been so richly rewarded. (And the sex? Amazing - he's like a guy 20 years younger but with more experience and technical expertise.) To think I could've written him off because he didn't match my stupid 'list'. Sheesh. My advice to other singles? Keep an open mind. Be patient. There might be someone in your life who is just perfect for you, if you are prepared to drop a few things off your list of expectations and realize that by doing so, you may receive a person with qualities you hadn't thought to include on that list. I think online dating has left us with a 'shopping' mentality in partners, and I think that's messed a lot of us up. True love may already be around you, if you open your eyes and your heart.