posted Wednesday, December 4, 2013 at 3:04pm
Several years ago, I met a guy that I like, much more than I realized at the time. However, we had a misunderstanding and he didn't stay in my life long enough for anything to happen. Several months ago, I met someone else with a similar background and personality, and I totally fell for him. I realized
for the first time that this is the type of person I would like to live my life with. Unfortunately, we have been struggling since the beginning: our differences and insecurities seem to stand in the way for us to become more intimate.
I have since reconnected with the first guy, and he has given signs that he would like to get to know me better. He seems to be somewhat more compatible with me, and my impression is that things could be easier. On the other hand, I know him very little and things can get complicated in unpredictable ways, especially since he currently lives across the country.
I'm happy to be with either if it could work. Since he is in my life right now and I know him better, I'm currently very attached to new guy. It really pains me to have to say goodbye and to start thinking about someone else when we still have strong feelings for each other.
However, a recent fight that opened my eyes to the possibility that he might be considering someone else one too, has made me become less committed. He has since retracted, and appears to be dedicated to make it work but I'm afraid that he would be the one to end it eventually. Is it too early to give
up? Should I keep it 'friendly' and non-exclusive for now or should I wait to see if it is really over with new guy before moving on?
In previous failed relationships, it was always difficult for me when he moved on with someone new before I got the chance. This time at least, I'm thankful that I have another hope for happiness if this doesn't work.