i don't reciprocate with flirtatious women because i feel bad for having unintentionally led them on in the past. i may "act straight" but i'm sorry to say i'm just not attracted to you beautiful, brave women. that's my reason, and i may or may not be the only "mildly attractive [man]" with this reason barring me from continuing our conversation/staring contest. my advice is to just be up front from the get go. say "god, i hope you're not gay because you're totally my type." not only will the dating process be sped up for you, but the awkward coming out process for guys like me is sped up too. if the guy is straight, ice is broken. boom.

For me it's doing it in public (that's what she said). If you're on transit, at a store, or somewhere where people are around it's very hard to start talking to a girl with the hopes of getting her number because it's just awkward for everyone. I'm pretty outgoing so I don't give a fudge what others think, but most girls would feel uncomfortable around either people giving the yay/nay to a guy. Unless you're totally rad, that is.

I think the internet and text based communication has slowly been receding our interpersonal skills. It seems, without the veil of technology, we have forgotten how to interact with one another. Spontaneous conversation has become as feared as public speaking. It is as if every word we utter to another human being in person must be as clever and concise as our written commentary. This is what leads me to believe it all stems from the fear of being vulnerable. Behind technology we are in full control with our filters on full blast, editing ourselves in real time to keep up our image at all costs. I'm not an avid Hockey fan but I think that Wayne Gretzky has a philosophy that fits this thread. "You miss a hundred percent of the shots that you don't take." We are all just people. We are just kids that got taller. We are just kids that know more stuff. Why can't we socialize like kids, care free, and completely vulnerable? Who are you living for? Meeting people is easy.

Probably should post in confessions.

...in other places guys are even too enterprising in love affairs. Thank God, the world is so multicoloured!