Savage Love Column

Here are a bunch of questions that were submitted anonymously at a live taping of Savage Lovecast.
Several of my friends declare themselves “gender-neutral", but they don’t seem to know that they can be gender nonconforming without having to discard gender.
I'm enormously insecure about my genitals, so much so that it holds me back from receiving oral sex.
Acknowledge the discomfort and awkwardness (D & A) that has been created while simultaneously drawing attention to the fact that said D & A are not of your creation.
I enjoy inserting needles directly into my clitoris. Am I potentially causing permanent nerve damage?
When a person says she wants something sexual to happen “naturally”, what she means is “spontaneously”.
I know there are BDSM clubs, but is there another way I can connect with spanking people?
If you suspect that your son is into assplay, consider purchasing a few ass-appropriate toys for him.
While a wedding ring on a straight married man (or woman) will be assumed to mean “taken and off-limits”, the same assumption doesn’t apply in the case of a married gay man.
My partner's desire to bring another woman into our relationship borders on obsession.