Savage Love Column

A straight male friend practises sounding and has for years, and I'm pretty sure he does other things that he isn’t telling anyone about.
Practise saying, “I’m new at this, I’m a little nervous, and I’m feeling a little awkward.”
I want to be in a romantic, sexually committed relationship with a man and a woman at the same time.
Those are the “tricks that exist” to help guys like you, and it sounds like you’ve mastered them.
I am pretty sure that I am not a sexual predator.
My boyfriend of two years cannot climax or maintain an erection unless his testicles are handled, squeezed, pulled, or pressed on.
If the only thing you like about your current girlfriend is the fact that she’s trans, you’re probably guilty of objectifying her.
I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but this isn't a "not yet" situation. It's a "not ever" situation.
I have never once received “enthusiastic oral” from my husband of 18 years, but a few new online friends are willing to orally service me.
I’m a 27-year-old straight guy who’s been in an open relationship for six years. I often seek out extracurricular activities, but I am unsure of how to bring up my situation without doors closing.