Vancouver study: A city of loneliness and unfriendliness?
Vancouver has been called No Fun City. But is Lonely City more appropriate?
Vancouver has repeatedly rated high on lists when it comes to livability. But while those surveys measure criteria such as education, health care, or safety, they don't factor in elements such as friendliness.
When the Vancouver Foundation sought to hone their focus as a community foundation, they polled 275 charitable foundations and 100 community leaders in 2011 to find out what their most pressing issue was. Much to their surprise, the top issue wasn't poverty or homelessness—it was isolation and disconnection.
This year, the foundation, working with Sentis Market Research, surveyed 3,841 people by phone and online (in English, Cantonese, Mandarin, and Punjabi) in April and May about their social interactions. Over 80 ethnic groups were represented.
What they found wasn't all gloom.
There were a number of positive findings in the survey results, published in a report entitled Connections and Engagement released on June 18.
The vast majority of respondents feel welcome in their neighbourhood and feel a sense of belonging (72 percent), with only a small number (6 percent) who don't. And 66 percent of respondents said they don't experience discrimination in the daily lives.
Forty percent have a conversation (beyond a mere hello) with their neighbour once a week or more. Seventy-four percent know the first names of at least two of their immediate neighbours.
But when it came to moving beyond mere cordiality, our city was found to be lacking in depth in certain areas. The report pinpointed various areas of concern, and exposed some chasms between various communities as well.
A third of the respondents said they found it difficult to make friends here. One in four people said they were alone more than desired. Those aged 24 to 34 and people living in suites in houses (such as basement apartments) reported higher rates of loneliness.
All of these respondents reported poorer health and lower trust of others as well.
How long you have lived here appears to be a factor in establishing relationships.
People who have lived in Canada for less than five years have had more difficulty making friends (42 percent report three or fewer close friends and 50 percent say it's hard to make new friends) but spend time with their social network more frequently than others. This group is also significantly more likely to use public spaces for social gatherings (64 percent) than longer-term Canadians (42 percent).
While our city embraces diversity, the survey results also expose divisions, and perceived divisions, between ethnic groups.
Thirty-five percent of those surveyed have no close friends outside their own ethnic group. The majority of respondents (65 percent) believe that while people are tolerant of diversity, people also prefer to be with others of the same ethnicity.
The ethnic group most likely to report have friends outside their own ethnic community are people of South Asian descent (89 percent). South Asian citizens are also the most frequent users of community centres or parks (50 percent, followed by Chinese people at 39 percent) and significantly more likely than other ethnic groups to have an optimistic view that ties among people in their neighbourhood are growing stronger (41 percent).
But South Asian and aboriginal people, and single parents, were the most likely to report discrimination (at 28, 27, and 24 percent, respectively).
Aboriginal people were the most likely to experience a lack of belonging in their neighbourhood (15 percent).
The study also discovered that the biggest barrier people face in participating in civic life is self-confidence. Twenty-seven percent believe that they don't have anything to offer to civic life, with those of Chinese descent the most likely ethnic group to feel this way (32 percent).
Language was not found to be a major obstacle for people in participating in civic life.
However, that's not how many locals perceive things to be.
Almost half of those surveyed (45 percent) see non-English speakers as not trying hard enough to participate in the community. On the other hand, 28 percent hold a contrary view, believing that non-English speakers are making an effort to do so.
Affordability was also a major issue.
While 40 percent reported that they're living comfortably, 30 percent reported that they are just about getting by, and 15 percent are finding it financially difficult.
Over half of residents feel that Vancouver is becoming a resort for the wealthy (54 percent) and there is too much foreign real estate ownership (52 percent). Residents between the ages of 25 and 34 were the most likely to agree with these statements (61 percent).
A strong correlation was found between these two attitudes—68 percent of those who believe Vancouver is for the wealthy also believe there is too much foreign ownership.
The Vancouver Foundation will continue to analyze the data, and publish further reports on the results.
But they're also doing something about their findings. Simon Fraser University is launching its first SFU Public Square Community Summit, in conjunction with the Vancouver Foundation. Alone Together: Connecting in the Urban Environment, to be held September 18 to 23, will examine civic disconnection and isolation.
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Here in Canada, people only make superficial relationships. Friends are disposable and you only hear from them when they want something. Relationships are the same. People here are looking for their own self-gratification and date several partners at the same time. There's no such thing as commitment and sincerity here.
I occasionally smile and strike a conversation with others if there's an obvious common ground, but sometimes it's difficult when people are preoccupied with their ipods, iphones, kindle...
Everyone is kind of lonely and therefore slightly unsocialized, but you just have to jog their skills a bit and stop being such a walking nerve ending (like everyone else, in case I wasn't clear).
I mean, do you see the irony? A bunch of fine but friendless, lonely people, eyeing each other suspiciously and convinced that they're on the outside of some clique? It's bullshit! I know because I've lived here all my life!
So, get a thimble for that heart of yours and get out there. Be generous and expect nothing! Social builders are needed in this young city! Make it yours!
http://emigratetonewzealand.wordpress.com/2012/03/21/migrant-tales-us-ki...
That said, I do try, when I remember, to be polite and say hello to people as I walk around because your neighborhood is your village. People are almost always quite nice and say hi back!
Yet another is a lot of people like to 'pretend' nice so they can garner the information they need to employ 'gossip' tactics.
Basically it comes down to it being a very transient sort of place - people are always coming and going (even us natives - half the people I went to school with have already left, and I will soon be joining them) - in the last decade especially it's become a very expensive, culturally dead ("diversity" nothwithstanding - it's more like 3 or 4 big monocultures), impossible-to-live-in city.. Is it really so hard to understand why people are reluctant to put down roots and form friendships, knowing that they or their new friends could be gone in a matter of months?
I grew up on V. Island and moved to Vancouver in the mid-80s. I haven't had the experience that people describe of people being stand-offish or cold. Over the years I have made friends through school, my volunteer activities, work and even in my apartment building (harder than those other places actually). I have long term friendships that I made after moving to this so-called lonely city.
I have heard from people, new to the city, that it is hard to meet people. And maybe if you don't have a context (school, work, volunteer, etc.) I imagine it would be. But I've always found that if you are interested in the people you come into contact with or who you have a chance to talk to, you can get to know others.
Are we expecting too much too fast? Life is about instantaneous communication now so maybe the slow development of friendships takes too long? I don't know. Just wondering.
I like one of the comments about all of us dropping our shields and just seeing people. How many times in the past week have you smiled at someone as you walk down the street or shared a moment waiting for the bus? How many times this month have you walked down the street w/o your headphones or phone? How many times have you joined a club/activity and commited to having a five minute or longer conversation with two new people? None of these are sure fire ways to make friends but they are all ways to feel less isolated and maybe, eventually, less lonely in this city.
I'm well-educated, well-read, have a job, frequent art and music venues, haunt coffee shops, climb Grouse, and lay on the beaches (I don't mean to put myself on a pedestal, but I don't feel there is anything particularly WRONG with me as a person). I don't live in a basement and I make an active effort to get out and do things. But it has not helped.
I find that there is a generally unfriendly air about the city. More so than other places I have traveled and/or lived. Whether people are jaded, have a holier-than-thou attitude, or are just locals that won't venture outside their cliques, it's just a cold place. My girlfriend and I have had zero luck making social connections here. We have joined numerous clubs and activities hoping to help break the ice, but it never happened.
Like Shelley, we have given up. We'll be leaving in a year when our work contracts are up, and will never look back. Vancouver has a lot to offer, but if I wanted to feel alienated and live paycheck-to-paycheck, I could very well do it anywhere else in the world. I gave it my best here, and I'm moving on.
I am unfortuneatly stuck in this city , No goddamn future here for a Potential male , early 20's with every quality to succeed why can't I heres why , People are Retardly cliquesh and they only make close friends with their high school acquaintences or colleauges or if its through family connections, The foreign culture already have a wealthy base not letting anybody outside of their culture in rather hate them . Jobs , LITERALLY NONE , All the entry level are taken by immigrants and the high end are taken over by The employers friends .... GIRLS , My goodness , It's literally Impossible to even talk or chat with a girl unless you already know them through something , there has to be a proof or else you will get arrested by the police .. so pretty much that leaves your whole success depended on LUCK HOW SAD , Basically meeting people is the most basic thing ever and Its looked as an impossible thing , OK Then and even though I am an attractive guy with a Enrique type look , 6 feet tall , so I am not average but thats that , whats even worse is How the heck are you suppose to meet people or ever move up with STUPID CONDITIONS like these ..I have never had a girlfriend or ever met anyone whos normal here ... But ACTIVELY For a year did go out in the city attempting to meet people you know in CAFES or even compliment a girl on the street but i guess i am a criminal because all i am wanting is to be happy and accepted RIGHT .. i have made a point that in a year if I dont Leave this city or figure something OUT , I am GOING TO COMMIT SUICIDE , PRETTY SAD , HECK I would rather be homeless IN NYC OR any SOCIAL CITY Than this City that ONLY HAS OPPURTUNITIES For the already rather than newbys
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