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You have an excuse for everything. Maybe I'll just have to live with that part of you. But it's fucking sneaky and annoying. I take things personally because you can't articulate what you're thinking or feeling then when I TELL you that my feelings are hurt you have a quick comeback, you make it MY fault, or you have a stupid joke to let yourself off the hook and you won't fucking say your sorry for the fucking life of you. Goddamn boy friend. And PS: we need to fuck more. the box of condoms we bought in NOVEMBER is not even half empty. Yes, I am counting, when I am the one who initiate sex 85% of the time. PPS: for the haters, yes I have told him this, and no I don't know why I still put up with it.

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Don't put up with it

Jan 8, 2013 at 12:56pm

He sounds like a sociopathic narcissist. I've been in your shoes before; it's so exhausting to deal with that type of personality & honestly, why should you? A relationship is give & take, but it sounds like he is taking more & more of you 'mentally'. You're better than that & deserve more.

Drew

Jan 8, 2013 at 1:36pm

Dump the motherfucker already

What is your confession?

Jan 8, 2013 at 1:39pm

Rant on.

love or lust

Jan 8, 2013 at 2:14pm

sounds like my ex... run for the hills. no lie.... I thought he would grow up.. fast forward 2+ years later... full of bull. now I'm with a new guy who treats me like the world.

OMFG

Jan 8, 2013 at 2:28pm

I dont normally write things here - I just lurk but when I read your post my reaction was: OMFG - I know that situation exactly, except its not by boyfriend I'd describe that way....its my wife. My advice stop putting up with it and don't end up in a marriage with the boyfriend concerned. Much harder to get out of that... I also agree with @Dont put- its is exhausting. I used to deal well with it and then spent the last year coping with my own ill health and guess what? I don't have the reserves to deal with her shit anymore! I'm getting better but the damage to the relationship has been done

mcspeel

Jan 8, 2013 at 3:07pm

sociopathic narcissist. ugh their argument styles are so annoying and misguided. and too belligerent to give you the moment to bear ur own thoughts

Problem Child...

Jan 8, 2013 at 4:46pm

Well go ahead and stay with him but don't get angry for the way he is. You're the one making the choice to stay. Don't think he will just wake up one morning and suddenly change because he won't... this is who he is as a person. He will never love you enough to magically change his ways for you. You're holding onto a lost cause if you think he'll ever give up who he is as a person. But like I said, don't get mad at him for it... you're the one making the decision to stay and therefore choosing to allow him to treat you like this.

Starr

Jan 8, 2013 at 5:31pm

Sociopathic narcissist is right. He's likely ehtrenhced in self-loathing and thus believes he is not worthy of a loving relationship, or to be loved at all. Highly manipulative, it's all about possession and control. He's attempting to drag you down to his level by degrading your self worth. This is why you're always wrong and he is never at fault. You're always to blame and he's "perfect." You find yourself apologizing for things daily while he is never at fault, and has a convenient excuse for everything. Everything's a joke and you're too sensitive.
He can't see or accept there's an issue, therfore it will only get worse for you. They happily withhold sex and any form of intimacy too, by the way.

kinda similar

Jan 8, 2013 at 5:47pm

I had a friend like this from childhood, and had to rid myself of him. Damn shame, but it had to be done. On the positive side, you'll appreciate a kind man that much more in future.

OP:

Jan 8, 2013 at 6:03pm

Im the original poster.

My confession is actually a complaint, sorry, wrong forum I suppose.

You all have left me good replies, thank you for that. I have a lot to think about.

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