the right thing. I grew up that way, too. But now that you have taken a step toward living the great life that you deserve, maybe she will finally do the same!

You have nothing to feel guilty about; no obligation to uphold.
Have a great life.

I come from a similar background and know how much balls it took to stand your ground and leave that situation behind you.
I wish I could say the guilt will leave too. It won't , but it will fade.
Please remember that your mother is making the choice to stay. My mother also used the reason that she wanted a 2 parent family for me and it is a lie she told herself to stay in denial and in an abusive relationship. She has a lot of excuses and no honest truths because the truth is, she is stuck in that cycle. Leaving her just confirmed the reality. She could no longer deny the abuse destroyed our relationship. I imagine it is the same for you. Let some time go by, I am sure she will be able to admit responsibility or at least feel relieved you escaped. Ps. I'm happy you escaped and hope you find your sanctuary.

It was and is your Mother's choice to remain in that situation so you've absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. Instead, be proud of yourself for finding the strength to walk away and get out! Resenting you is unfair. She can't blame you for her choices and actions, and hopefully one day, she'll realize the choice of leaving is as free for her to make as the choice of staying. She should be happy that you're no longer in that environment and that you're on your way to a better life. I hope she follows your lead. Good luck, you're on the right track. You deserve a happy life and don't be scared to embrace it. :)

My parents are in their "marriage" status for the same reason. In their case, they both are emotionally and verbally abusive, more so from my mother. They just don't belong together. I moved out when I graduated, and my mother put me on a guilt trip from time to time.

You can't control what they do or say. But you can control how you react to it. Let her know you appreciate everything she has done for you. She will come around.

Your mother sacrificed her whole life to help you out but you're bailing on her. Talk about a lack of gratitude.......

As a mother, I would have made the decision to leave the abuse for my children's sake. It would be tough and finances would be tight but I would not want my children thinking that abuse is acceptable or to be tolerated. Glad you were able to break free from the abuse and the codependency.