Birthdays Are Not To Be Celebrated

I just turned 33 and as you get older birthdays are not to be celebrated especially if you are a single woman. It just means I am one year older and the chances of having kids is decreasing rapidly from a biological perspective. My friends from university are all either getting married or on baby number 2. I hate Facebook because its a constant reminder of where they are and where I am in life. I am in the unfortunate position now where I am not picky at all with men. As long as he's nice and has a job of some kind and has never been to prison I am willing to give him a chance. My marriage horizon is one year and kids in two and he has to accept that or else I am moving on. My eggs literally have no time to waste. I wish I had listened to my mom and got my Mrs. degree in university instead of studying so hard to get my Masters because maybe then I'd be married.

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Good luck with that

Sep 18, 2015 at 12:20am

So you meet a guy and tell him you gotta be married in one year and breeding within two. Do you make this announcement on date 1 or date 2? Or just have it on cards you pass out to randos on the street?

camel

Sep 18, 2015 at 4:34am

It worked for me!

Sounds like a ...

Sep 18, 2015 at 6:23am

...troll to me. Generic stereotype of a 30-something career woman who regrets being successful, but sounds more like a 30-something guy afraid of commitment, and is childishly lashing out at an ex that dropped him after finding out that he "just isn't ready".

Natty

Sep 18, 2015 at 7:35am

Ugh, why does it have to boil down to the eggs (haha) from ages 28 and up? Don't you want to find someone to enrich both your life and his?

Really??...

Sep 18, 2015 at 9:51am

What a brutal way to look at life. Thank god i'm not a woman...

Freeze your eggs

Sep 18, 2015 at 10:04am

Problem solved. Find the right partner.

Sounds like...

Sep 18, 2015 at 11:27am

You're having an off moment. I completely understand your frustration. You shouldn't, however, downplay your achievements, or give up on finding someone who'll be suited to you (rather than just a guy who hasn't been in prison). As for the people who married young, you don't know their personal situations - they may envy your freedom and independence.

That said, keep an open mind, but don't allow that ticking clock to put you into a bad situation. It's okay to lower one's expectations from the 'perfect handsome prince' to 'he's a nice guy and we get along' - but if you go too low, you may wind up with someone who won't be a good partner to you, or father to your child. (And that 'lower standards' mindset may also seem like desperation to the men, and they tend to run from that.)

There are good men out there - we just sometimes have to look a little harder to find them. Best of luck to you.

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Green & Red

Sep 18, 2015 at 1:09pm

Sounds to me like you’re green with envy when you should be red with embarrassment for posting such a ridiculous “confession”. Do yourself a favor: Stop comparing your life to the lives of your friends. You’ll never have what they’ve got, because you’re not them. You’re you. You want to go and settle for joe-shmo who will make you unhappy in 3 years because you got tired of waiting to find the right person, and now you’re stuck with his babies? How’s that Mrs degree looking now? No man or baby is going to make you feel better about yourself if you’re suffering from “she’s got - he’s got” syndrome. What will it be next? You don’t have a fancy house, the right car, the right stroller? So celebrate your damn birthday because you’re alive, because you’ve been successful and you’re living in a beautiful, safe and damn fantastic place, enjoy your freedom and single life for what it is right now. Pull your head out of your arse and get some sense!

Anonymous

Sep 18, 2015 at 3:22pm

This makes me really sad. Do you feel the biological need to have children, or are you just trying to 'keep up' with what everyone else is doing? In my experience, if you're looking for a relationship, you won't find it. You need to throw yourself into your life: do things that make you genuinely happy, go to school, find a hobby, don't look for this: it will find you. You know when you lose something and you can't find it even if it's right in front of you because you're blinded by looking? Like that. You're missing out on what could be right in front of you. Age is just a number, kids can be overrated. Travel, relax. Or, hell, raise a kid by yourself if that's your life goal. Why do you need a man to do so?

It's a troll, people

Sep 18, 2015 at 5:53pm

I just don't believe a woman would talk about herself in such demeaning derogatory terms. Especially, a woman who is educated and has a profession.
If you are not a troll, you need help. Addressing your body as "eggs" is so ridiculous and ungrateful. What if you were disabled? Would you completely lose your sense of worth in life because you can't walk or write or even work?

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