but the fact is that there are TONS more male pedos than female.

Why? Because there are more men who are biologically fucked up. Don't believe it? Look at the number of men in prisons or the dangerous part of psychiatric wards compared to women

If this is someone who really had this happen to them (and not just another one of the women-hating men who post their vitriol here) I am truly sorry that you got victimized but one of these women. And if you only ever date women who are abusive to you, then maybe get some counselling to overcome this so that you can attract normal (loving) women.

Do you have any female friends? Are they abusive to you?

Are you kidding me?? You've turned this into a male vs female pedo debate?? What the hell is wrong with you... They're all monsters.

I'm sorry to hear of your experience...

You are 100% correct, we do not talk about this issue enough. Abuse happens to both sexes and it's sad and actually deeply disturbing that light is shed on one gender more than the other. I believe attention should be given equally to both. Because I believe that one human preying on another vulnerable human being is disgusting and I don't need gender to decide that for me. It should absolutely be discussed. The fact of the matter is no one in this world should have to feel like they have nowhere to turn or can't come forward. The seeking of help should always be encouraged and welcomed no matter someone's gender. We all feel emotions and get profoundly affected by trauma.

Hopefully you'll find a nonabusive partner in the future. The good thing about cycles, is you can break them once you're aware of them. It's hard, but possible, and I'm sure you can do it. It sounds like you're doing your best to cope with your struggles and that's great. Like you, I hope others do the same. Good luck.

The Cops chuckled at me when they were taking my statement after being punched in the face by a girl. (I'm a guy)

Not to minimalize what you've gone through, by I don't think it's a taboo subject, it's just very rare. Just like serial female killers and women who murder unrelated children.
Look at the sensationalism around the Mary Kay Letorneau (sorry, not sure on the spelling) case. 20 years after she had relations with an 11 year old boy in her class, the public is still fascinated.
As for your own situation, you should talk to a professional. No abuse survivor should suffer alone.

Thank you to everyone who has shown support. And thank you to others who have spoken up about their own experiences of abuse. If more people start telling their stories of abuse, and more people start earnestly listening to them, accepting and believing them, then the true number of male survivors of sexual assault, including survivors of female pedophiles, will finally be revealed.

As for those of you have nae-say'd, and minimized my lived experiences and the experiences of other male survivors, I just wanted to thank you, as well... for you've given us a perfect example of what happens when male survivors attempt to speak publicly about the abuse they've survived, and especially when their abusers were women.

I feel confident speaking on behalf of all male survivors of female pedophiles when I say this: we will not be silenced, we will speak up, we will not be shamed, we will expose the truth of the things that are done to boys, but no one wants to hear. We will not let you use public shaming, stigmatizing, minimizing or any other thinly veiled tactics to silence us.

Once it is no longer considered totally improbable, impossible, rare, or so statistically insignificant so as to be a non-issue, then perhaps the police, social workers, crisis workers, counselors and so forth, will begin to take us seriously enough to actually report our cases. I once attempted to report my abuse to the police, but the officer I was speaking with simply patted me on the shoulder, and told me there was nothing she could do for me. She most likely believed what some of you believe: that I couldn't have been abused, because it's just so "statistically rare". So the statistics are self reinforcing... the people who take the reports don't believe male survivors, because the statistics show that their cases are rare, which leads to underreporting, and that underreporting is reflected in the statistics. In order to ensure that those stats accurately reflect reality, we need stop the institution level underreporting of male survivors. This is especially so for survivors of female abusers. I've tried reporting my experiences of abuse to social workers, and they tend not to believe me at first, if at all. Not only is there the systemic problem of intentional underreporting, there is also the issue of people using those statistics to minimize and invalidate the experiences of male s

a lot of stories of children who were sexually abused, especially boys who were abused by male pedophiles (priests) but you are right that we don't hear about female abusers as much. Also, note that there are female abusers who abuse girls as well. So, it appears we hear less about female abusers than males no matter what the age or sex of the victims. Abuse is abuse, no matter who perpetrates it, and we should protect children and those who are especially vulnerable to it.

Also, we need to stop labeling male survivors of female pedos as "women haters", so that they won't be so afraid to come forward, and tell their stories. We need to stop stigmatizing, labeling and minimizing male survivors (both cis and trans) regardless of the gender of their perpetrator, so as to help put an end to sexual violence in general.

And only once we start coming forward, will we really be able to get an accurate idea of just how common female pedophilia is. I think this problem has remained completely hidden for a long time, and few people really have any idea that it does happen, and is probably far more common that we realize. Or want to realize. Most people are to afraid to go into this realm, it's simply to taboo, and the risk of being labeled a "women hater" is something most people would rather avoid.

Also, someone in an earlier post tried to explain to me that I need to stop choosing to be with abusive women, and that I should "try to attract normal (loving) women." This is true, and thank you for the suggestion. People, both men and women, are known to be more attracted to abusive partners as a result of having experienced childhood abuse. My hope is that not only the men reading this will realize that they no longer need to be with abusive women, but the women who have reading this who have survived abuse can also learn to attract normal (loving) men. I wish this for all survivors.

Hopefully, we can normalize talking about female abusers enough that the survivors of their abuse will no longer be afraid to step forward, and tell their stories. I'm sure that the labeling, shaming and stigmatizing of this particular group of survivors will continue for some time, which is why we need to have courage, and speak up in spite of people's bigotry.

I had a job at 19 were I was exposed to daily sexual assaults by women. That year I roughly calculated a conservative average of 3+ shift, adding up to about 900+sexual assaults by women. the first few days it was a bit of a ego boost but quickly lost its novelty. My boss said if you dont want the job thats fine but if staying suck it up. The money was good especially at that age but the drunk women seemed to think molesting me was perfectly fine.

The worst thing was i had a few stalkers. My roomate wokes for the same organization and would often bring the party home. I was training for a national team i was nominated for so i seldome drank. this would be my down fall. The few times i joined in a few drinks would hit me hard and i would go zombie upstairs to my bed and pass out. while the party kept going downstairs. If you have ever had night job you probably would relate to blacking out your room to get sleep in the day. Its relevant only to stress the ways in which i was raped 3 times by women. One by imitating my girl friend who would often crawl into bed with me after work, and capatilising on my state of intoxication. 2nd was drugged and wouldnt have known it happened accept my roommate witnessed he coming out of my room and resulted in getting dumped by my girlfriend who I already had a ring for and was waiting to ask for the right time. The third one i wont touch on. Biggest mistake was going to police. I was not believed and left humiliated. One officer actually went to her house and investigate my claim. I never even thought it would backfire so badly. She flipped the story and said I r*ped her. They believed her and that night I was arrested. I was quiestioned and eventually released due to lack of evidence but word spread fast. In one week i lost my Girlfriend, My job, and my reputation. I was jumped several times by hero white nights and had i not been as able to defend myself i would have been beat to death. I was also evicted. I was ran out of town. for the next 23 years i was labeled a rapist running into guys from back home. she was still telling people. My sister was one of the few people that believed me and 23 years later she hadbeen befreinded my rapest and was able to record her admitting she lied and had sex with me when drugged. 23 years falsely accused. 30 years later i do not trust women at all.

Most of these comments are perfect examples of the problem. There is the "it's so rare so it's not a real problem" comment. And the "There are TONS more cases of male abuse" comment. WOW. Perfect illustration of the problem at hand