Energizer bunny

I'm not; but I do have way more energy than my partner and it leads to some slight resentment on my part. I would love to spend all my hours away from work in the summer running, or walking, or hiking, or picnicking, or exploring new neighborhoods but my partners idea of downtime is sitting on the couch. How did we get here? It wasn't like this years ago. Confused and depressed.

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Feel the same

Aug 20, 2017 at 7:48pm

I am seeing someone who pretty much works all the time, leaving him with NO energy or interest in doing anything except sitting around at my place all weekend long. So my "date nights" consist of me doing all the cooking and cleaning up and we enjoy a few hours of gentle conversation and then he falls asleep on my couch, snoring through whatever movie we decided to watch. I'm bored out of my mind and seriously considering breaking it off before I'm too old to care anymore.

20 2Rating: +18

Nothing to Offer

Aug 20, 2017 at 8:33pm

Does this partner also like Youtube videos and soup?

14 6Rating: +8

This happens to me too

Aug 21, 2017 at 5:27am

I'd love to hear how others deal with it.

15 2Rating: +13

find balance

Aug 21, 2017 at 9:29am

let them get some rest, ease off on the pressure for a bit, and maybe they'll have more energy again. alternately, you may need a holiday.

9 7Rating: +2

Life is short.

Aug 21, 2017 at 10:48am

If your couch-potato partner is determined to lead a sedentary lifestyle, the gap between you will only grow wider. In ten years, you'll still be fit and active, and they will have turned into a total dumpling.
Just because you were compatible at the start doesn't mean you always will be. You need to be with someone whose attitude and lifestyle enhances the quality of your life, rather than dragging you down to their level of passivity.

Leave now and find someone you can enjoy a healthy life with, and let them find another potato to vege out with on the couch.
You'll both be happier if you do.

15 6Rating: +9

It's all about...

Aug 21, 2017 at 12:09pm

compatibility. There's no right or wrong... maybe they are complaining that you never stop and don't know how to relax. compatibility compatibility compatibility

17 2Rating: +15

Escalator demographics.

Aug 21, 2017 at 3:12pm

The people who walk up the left side of escalators are always looking for opportunities to move.
The standers on the right are looking for opportunities to stop moving.
You need to find a member of your own tribe.

12 4Rating: +8

Zzzzz

Aug 21, 2017 at 5:49pm

You're partner assimilated to the local culture?

5 3Rating: +2

@find balance

Aug 21, 2017 at 6:34pm

The only thing wrong with your assumption is that if the person in question continues to live the exact same lifestyle, even though you're being exceptionally accommodating and understanding, then they run the risk of losing said relationship. At that point you need to ask yourself whether it's fair that the only one doing the accommodating and being understanding is you. People who refuse to do their fair share in a relationship, whether by stubbornness, inability to acknowledge, or by choosing to work so many hours that maintaining a relationship becomes impossible, need to be prepared to accept the consequences of their choices.

5 4Rating: +1

been there

Aug 21, 2017 at 6:35pm

I was in a relationship like this a few years ago. Not quite to this extreme, but he had little energy/interest to do much during the week, and maybe we'd go for a hike or bike ride on the weekend. Since we broke up I feel like myself again, making the most of my free time.

6 4Rating: +2

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