But 40 brings something much more powerful than being looked at, objectified and evaluated regarding your fuckability. 40 brings the power of not giving a fuck. I'm quite a bit older than 40 and I have never felt more powerful. I feel pretty sexy too.

I got a notice today on how to apply for my upcoming pension. Tee hee

This is very common for women that were extremely beautiful in their 20's and 30's. Men will bend over backwards to open doors for you and do things for you and you will get jobs and promotions very easily. It all comes crashing down in your 40's. The worst part is your entire worldview has been incorrect and its too late.

Chill! There are plenty of guys that love older women, myself included. I'm twenty-five...

Just own whatever age you are and take care of yourself, love yourself, etc- and you'll attract a multitude of partners if you keep your eyes open and trust your gut about people. Chin up!

Everyone looks different at 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 years old. We can't expect to look 20 when we are double that age.

While that is not a nice thing your friend said to you, age is only one factor. Diet, physical fitness, grooming, style, demeanour, happiness, etc all play a role in your outside physical attractiveness too.

Now she gets to learn what she took for granted?

There's always an easy solution to this. At 40 your career is probably in a good place. Find a young and unemployed, (or underemployed) guy. He'd love to have a good woman, and you'll be doing the world a good turn too.

I was invisible when I was younger. I'm almost 40 now and I'm getting checked out for the first time in my life. Mainstream thought tells me I'm "done" and "over", so I don't know how I've managed to cheat death like this.

You should tell her "thats funny ever since I turned 40 the younger girls have never looked at me more."