Its Your Fault

Men need to stop blaming all women for you not being able to find a girlfriend. It isn't our fault. Everyone has issues and problems. Just deal with them like a grownup. Maybe go to school and get a good job. How about not smoking marijuana all the time. Learn to dress well and have interesting hobbies. Learn how to hold a decent interesting conversation. Read a book for a change. You are single because of you and only you and its no ones fault except yours so own up to it.


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The problem...

Oct 13, 2017 at 8:09pm

... with this view is that it is disturbingly similar to a right-wing libertarian narrative. If people want sidewalks, they should maintain them on their own, without taxation, right? If people can't manage to do this, it's because they haven't taken civil engineering courses, have a broken shovel, etc. Nobody's fault but their own.

I am not disagreeing that people should be free to choose their own partners, but this is because I am a Libertarian who does not beleive in using coercion to redistribute things.

Or take birth control. If you cannot afford birth control (or an abortion) then maybe take some night classes, get a better job w/ extended health, or whatever. So clearly the premis isn't that redistribution is wrong; for some reason, maybe even a good reason, humans are comfortable redistributing some things, not others. It's not like it's naturally true that it's right to redistrbute abortions, not right to redistribute relationships.

If we look at international law, we have covenants guaranteeing people the right to "cultural participation." Is a night at the Opera really a "necessity" that states should use redistribution to address? In Canada we provide millions of dollars in grants to arts orgs. There are no grants for shabbily dressed men to get a wardrobe update, have lessons on conversation.

So, I agree with the OP, but there are a lot of things where wecould (and did historically say) "You are without X because of you and only you and its no ones fault except yours so own up to it."

We don't say that to women who want mammograms.
We don't say that to arts args.
We do say this to men.

So why the inconsistency? Why shouldn't women pay for their own mamograms, arts orgs pay for their own lighting, catering, etc. and men pay for their own clothes?

Okay Miss High and Mighty

Oct 13, 2017 at 8:24pm

I've seen plenty of single women here blaming men for their relationship status, and a lot of people are just single by choice. Some just people don't want the headache and shallowness of a gold digger, or just another guy looking for a fling. 9/10 is what they are.

You can love whoever or whatever you want, but if you're not living with them, then you have no right to bitch about their lifestyle. If it's someone you don't even care about, then mind your own business. No one needs to change for someone that isn't there for them to need changing. No one is blaming you for being what you are.

Let it go

Oct 13, 2017 at 8:45pm

If you don't let it all go, it will destroy you, and those close to you. First it'll destroy you spiritually, and then it will destroy you physically. You should let go of all your bitterness caused by your worldly desires. If love doesn't come first to you, and if it isn't enough for you, in the end you'll end up with no one, and you'll have nothing.

No, it's yours.

Oct 13, 2017 at 9:00pm

You know that there are a lot of wonderful women that do smoke marijuana all the time, don't have the greatest paying jobs, don't bother to do much reading (I agree with holding a decent conversation, and not just with yourself either, but that takes two), right? What I love most about such women, is that they're easy to chill with, they're down to earth, they're not judgemental, and they don't look down their noses at anyone. They're the type of women that you can trust not to stab you in the back.


Oct 13, 2017 at 9:31pm

I love being a walking ATM

Well, princess...

Oct 13, 2017 at 9:40pm

What if all the stuff you don't like about them, isn't an issue or problem for them, but rather it's an issue and a problem for you? You're not so special that anyone needs to change themselves for you.

It's Your Fault

Oct 13, 2017 at 10:11pm

Women need to stop blaming all men for you not being able to find a boyfriend. It isn't our fault. Everyone has issues and problems.
Just deal with them like a grownup. Maybe go to school and get a good job rather than working a $20k a year job and hoping a millionaire will come to your rescue. How about not drinking all the time. Learn not to be so quick to judge men by their appearances or how much money they appear to have or not have,and don't ask them what they do in the first 20 seconds of meeting them.And have interesting hobbies other than shopping and TMZ. Learn how to hold a decent interesting conversation that's not just gossip or the latest fashions. Read a book for a change instead of looking at Cosmopolitan magazine.
You are single because of you and only you and its no ones fault except yours so own up to it.

Hey guys

Oct 13, 2017 at 10:19pm

She's single. Imagine that?

Read a book?

Oct 13, 2017 at 10:31pm

Most men who get ladies are not your fantasy fairy-tale arts student who reads all the time.

You're right though. Smoking marijuana and doing nothing is bad.

However, Vancouver women do have remarkably high standards that make me want to leave-- and I will.

It is as if the gold digger mentality isn't overtly open, but there is still a status-quo for gold that must be met to date a "viable" man. They will never admit it though, but they demand that a man owns his own condo at least.

Thank you Steven Harper- love guru

Oct 14, 2017 at 1:37am

For your sensible plain talk. Yes I want the dynamic duet! Yes I am a willing weft! Your insights are never pedestrian protests but rather windows to soulful seasons of excruciatingly exquisite intercourse. Once again- thank you

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